to not want to be the bad guy every freaking day?

[meridian]

toatally shitty day today... maybe I'm just tired and maybe its PMS..

it started with DS waking us up at just after 5am, pestering for something to eat so we said go get a cereal bar its too early for breakfast, while we huddled in bed. so then DS shouts upstairs that he has put the tv on but none of his shows are on... becuse its 5.15 am...

the day proceded with DS whinging and whining all day becuse he was tired, and everytime I said no or ask him to look at somethinghe would run off to DH.. fine whatever... then we are supposed to leave the house to go to Markeaton park to the Fire and Rescue show to look at the firetrucks... DS not listening and talking back to me so I say he is to tired he shouldent go... he starts whining and DH caves and so we go...

anoracks ahoy... it was ok but pretty much my idea of hell about the only highlight is there were some owls from the owl protection guys and I got to hold one.. DS wouldn't and anytime I wanted to show him soemthing he would run to DH and not listen to me.. so I jsut gave up in the end and kept my mouth shut... evil bad guy mummy

more whinging and whining and hanging on to DH... and DH spoining him.. fine its fathers day but what the hell.. it was like I was totally invisabvle...

then after a hellish trip to starbucks for a coffee with DS messing around DH decideds to drive to his dad's house who isn't there.. suprise suprise..(a whole nother story)

anyway DS falls asllep in the car so we go park on MIL's drive DH goes into the house but I stayed out becuse DS was fussing and I know it would be unholy hell if he woke up alone in the car... I sat for 40 min before DH came back out to see if DS was awake...

DS woke up and spent next 10 min fussing around the car while DH played with his camera and I deleted stuff off my phone while trying to get DS to wake up properly...

I said I needed to go to the shop for stuff for what DH wants for tea... he said in a bit... I said I have to feed frizbe's kids too I need to go to shop... long story short I asked for the keys again and walked away up into town and then home wiping away tears the whole time...

oh and there is a freaking brass band playing on the park...

sorry its long I just feel so upset and crap

That is indeed a pretty shitty day. Poor you. Put the boy to bed as soon as you can and try to get over it.

thank you... cant put him to bed.. have left DH and DS with MIL at the park... but I have to babysit a frieds two little girls in 20 min...

god I hate crying... i just cant stop...

I just don't understand why DH lets him do wahtever.. and I'm the bad guy.. I yell too much I am apprently awful to DS..

it cant jsut be becuse its fathers day

so you are own your own now?
and you got to go out to the shops alone?!!
make the most of the aloneness for goodness sake!!

aloneness lasted all of 15 min.. then 4 hours of manic cooking, cleaning and entertaining, DS and friend's two DDs.. things are better now but I feel totally drained and upset... shops are just the coop ... to get creame fraiche to make DH his fav dinner..

DH and DS came blythly back from the park like nothing had happened... perhaps I was being unreasonable but it just really hurt...

Find a local spa and book yourself for next weekend. Have a piggin' break! Or if you can't afford that pretend your going get some crappy chick lit and sit in a park for an afternoon. I have a rule that my dh 'hears' our dcs at the weekend because I get to do the shouting all week, I want time to be the nice guy. He's pretty good at it because he's not wound up all week long.

twelvelegs--- thanks... DS is 4.5 and everytime I think he is getting to a good stage he jsut really winds me up.. then runs off and plays angel to my DH.. then I get in trouble for shouting at DS when DS will not respond or listen to me unless I shout.. the old vicious circle... I guess it was father's day today... but he shouldn't have let DS get away with such bad behaviour...

can't justify another book have a pile about 10 deep on my nightstand... not all new but amassed... I do have a voucher for the local spa/salon somewhere...

I'm sure I will feel better when I have had a sleep... till the next battle that is

I jsut needed to vent I guess...

Meridian, I am a little shouty and it is a vicious circle. Find your DS's currency...tv, pc, storytime, and either increase as a reward or confiscate when he behaves good/bad. Sometimes shouting is great though

I think the lack of sleep didint' really help today... maybe I am jelous but its more that when its just DS and me during the week when he isn't in preschool we get along fine, no problems... then as soon as DH gets home at night DS stops listening to me.. and it was just really bad this morning... everything I said he would tattle to DH or whinge when I said things like its time to get dressed, or that its breakfast time and asked what he wanted..

DH comes home from work and breezes in and I get all the bad behaviour, then if I shout i get in trouble with DH becuse I'm being evil when DS isn't listening to me and mouthing back...

rationally I know its a testing bounderies age... but still...

thanks for listening to me

meridian, arrange a fun time with all of you tring something new pony trekking or something, where you all have a stress free but exciting time. Ask dh to be really lovely about you in front of ds, lots of affection your way.

I can't really imagine DH on a pony... no definitly not.. but the thought has made me smile.. thank you!

I'm going to go get a hot drink and settle down for the night. I'm so tired..

thanks for chatting to me...its helped...

Enjoy, I'm off to 'tidy' my room, which means dance around listening to music whilst I pair up some socks!!