To sneak off to London for 2 days

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Ex and I share custody of our kids and he looks after them while I work part time. I had more annual leave than I thought recently so I spontaneously booked a theatre show in London that I’ve been dying to see plus a hotel! Am I being very cheeky? Ex doesn’t know I’m not in work and gallivanting off instead!

Things can be tense between us and I was worried that he might do something to sabotage my trip!

I feel much guilt now though, I do have the kids more and he works full time, also he was off for a week recently and didn’t have the kids any more than usual.

I feel weird that he thinks I’m in work though, I plan to tell him when I’m there or maybe when I get back!

AIBU? I feel weird and guilty!

I wouldn’t tell him if you suspect he’ll find a way to sabotage your trip. What you do on your own time is none of his business. Don’t feel guilty, have a fab time in London.

Don't tell him. You share custody. It's not his business what you do when the children are with him.

You are under no obligation to tell Ex anything about your life and how you spend your time. When he has the children; what you do during that time is none of his business. Stop giving him more consideration than he gives you.

If it’s a musical just be careful not to come back humming the songs 😂 Enjoy it, can’t see why you should feel any guilt.

Ha ha! I can’t promise anything 🤣 🎵

Would you expect him to tell you exactly what he’s been up to during the time the children are with you? Of course you wouldn’t, and it’s none of his business how you spend your time.

Sounds magical. Enjoy every minute x

There is absolutely no reason to tell him whether before or after, he does not need to know your whole life whereabouts. Presumably he is able to make contact with you should there be a genuine emergency (although tbf would expect him to manage this if he is caring for the children unless something catastrophic) then crack on and enjoy your time and don’t give it a second thought of letting him know. And don’t feel guilty. Your children are safe and with their parent, it is okay for you to spend this time as you please.

Go and enjoy it ! And don’t tell him !

You sound way too enmeshed with him. There’s absolutely no need to tell him when you take time off, or how you spend your free time.

No need for ‘sneaking). Just go and enjoy yourself.