Poo.

[violentviolet]

Apologies for slight tmi here. A couple of days ago my dp had just got in the bath, when I realised I needed the toilet quite urgently and I couldn't last the 90 mins my partner is usually in the bath for. So I knocked on the door and apologised profusely but said "look, I really have to go, I'm sorry, bad timing"

So he says "it's ok, don't worry, it happens" etc. All goes quiet. After 30 seconds or so I say "um, I really do have to go quite urgently" and he says "well, go on then. I'm not getting out fo the bath though"

I was appalled. I'm not prudish or poo-phobic at all, and okay, I've given birth in front of this man but I really feel that some things are private and this is one of them! Plus the toilet is RIGHT next to the bath. He suggested I pull the shower curtain across and get on with it. I can't even go if he's outside the bathroom door ironing ffs! Anyway so I shouted and he slammed out of the bathroom in a huff.

But it's been playing on my mind for a couple of days since, and I don't know if it's him being lazy/unreasonable or if I'm just being uptight and most other couples do that? I haven't been able to face sex since either for some reason, it's put me right off.

Lol, well I'm not saying it happens regularly but if I need to have a poo, I have one regardless. I'm not at all bothered by dh's and ds' poo. Anyone elses would completely disgust me though!

Personally, I don't mind a pee in front of dh, if necessary, but pooing is a solitary activity in this house!

I'm the same - wouldn't poo in front of dp.

He doesn't care, and thinks I'm over sensitive.

Then again, he forgets to flush etc. Yuk....

Have to say I think YAB a bit U to expect him to get out of the bath. Especially expecting him to read your mind when you were hovering rather than just asking him would he mind getting out for a couple of mins while you do the enedful and then he can come back in!

Nothing bothers me and dh - started off saying we wouldn't but TBH it doesn't bother either of us now

YABU...it was only a poo, not even massive diaorrhea or uncontrollable squits. I think you should count yourself very lucky you have a very laid back OH who really doesnt mind. Mine finds anything like that mucks with his 'mystique of me being a sexy lady' which is irritating in its self.

Interesting responses, more of a mixed bag than I'd expected really! As I said, peeing in front of each other when necessary is acceptable, but for me, pooing is too far. I really can't go if anyone is standing outside the door even, and he knows this. If I think he's anywhere within hearing distance I turn the tap on full/put paper down first. (My mum taught me to do that because I used to get stressed about being overheard on the loo at people's houses)

I hate hearing, smelling and being told about people's poo- certainly couldn't watch them pooing, I'd be repulsed! Babies are the obvious exception.

So maybe it IS me with the "problem"

But actually, I'm fine with that!

You don't have a problem.
Every body has their little 'things', this is yours.
I however will go nuts if anybody moves my car seat, sometimes DH will use my car and even though he is taller than me I go spare if he has moved it.
In your DH's defense, you know he likes to have a long bath, you were invading his time while he was having his 'thing'.
Next time he has a bath go and do your poop first and/or get him to ask you if you need to use the loo before he gets in the bath.
Everyone's happy.
Maybe................

YANBU I can't even poo when the DSes are about. Can pee though.

I always suffer when we are holiday as I hate pooing in campsite/public loos. No idea why.

YANBU - peeing I can cope with but poo is a step too far. We have seperate toilet in this house but was in bathroom in previous house. Used to drive me mad when DH wanted to use it when I was in bath.

Pee yes.

Poo nay, nay and thrice nay. Oh dear God, no!

oh dear, you should live in my house. It can often be me on the toilet, DP and DD faffing around doing teeth etc and my little dog trying to jump on my lap when i try and have a poo.

A poo in peace?? [shcock]

LEM reminds herself to get a lock for the bathroom

Sidge, are you married to my DH? He even turns the bedroom T.V round on its wall mount so he can watch it in the bath and can be in there for two hours......

it could be worse kimi, he could do that when he goes for a poo!

I'd rather do a poo with DH in the bath than him do a poo and stink out my relaxing bath!!

I'd rather poo in peace, but if I was in your situation I'd have just pulled the shower curtain across and gone.

Kimi I do hope not

LOL I let my DH wallow as long as he likes - he's in the Navy and they don't have baths on his ship, only showers, so when he comes home after months away with no bath I let him indulge himself!

How does your DH see the TV in the bedroom when he's in the bath? Do you have a suite with a bathroom in your bedroom?