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Every time I’m due on my totm I want to divorce my husband

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Daisydolly101 · 08/02/2026 12:46

I’m early 40s and I’ve always suffered with horrendous pms. I suspect I might have pmdd. I have been to the GP numerous times but I have found them to be no help. Aside from the physical symptoms I get so bloody irritable.

Dh and I don’t argue over big things but we do bicker and when I’m due on I find him intolerable. We do have the same outlook on the bigger things and he’s so loving, works hard and a family man but he’s irritating the hell out of me.

He has a permanent cough that he’s had for about 10 years I personally think it’s a habit and have suggested that he go to the doctors if he’s genuinely had a cough for this long.

He stomps around everywhere coughing, knocking things over and dropping things just generally being noisy. He’ll be in the kitchen crashing and banging around and cursing every 5 minutes over absolutely nothing.

He’s turning into such a know it all. We will get up for the day and he’ll ask me what I think we should do about x, y, z (things we need to do). I’ll say my bit and then he’ll spend 5 minutes telling me why I’m wrong and we need to do it a different way then go wandering off just doing what he thinks and I’m left like “right, ok”.

He’s a terrible communicator. If he doesn’t want to do something he won’t simply say, he’ll make wild excuses. Why can’t the man just say what he means!!

He’s practically half deaf and can’t hear a word anyone saying but he won’t see about getting hearing aids. I actually wonder sometimes if he likes not being able to hear people because if we are with family/friends he just ignores everyone because he can’t hear.

Don’t really know what my point is other than how can I stop feeling so irritated?

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ProfessorSillyStuff · 08/02/2026 13:03

Yes.
I can see why it would be difficult. Flowers

I have the same problem only we aren't even together yet.
That's why I dont intend to move in together. Instead I'm preparing by keeping track of my cycle. I intend to spend my one angry day and one sad day per month alone and resting.
Do you have a spare room where you could rest on those days? If it could make the marriage better, would he consider being quieter or going out early on those days?

Ihaveoflate · 08/02/2026 13:30

I'm similar and mid 40s. I suspect it might be time for me to consider HRT. I don't currently take any hormonal birth control and haven't forgotten about 20 years.

Has your GP ever suggest the pill or mirena coil?

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