Normal at 14 ?

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My dd used to be confident chatty, enjoyed seeing friends
she does have a lot of friends an she gets invited out but right now she doesn’t seem to have a close close friend - sometimes she ends up being quite difficult and can be quite reactionary (has adhd) but I don’t think it anything more than some of her friends - she can isolate herself sometimes though

she’s lost a lot of confidence lately and can barely look at some people or make eye contact ( never problem before been for the last 6 months) she feels lucky (she’s not) she has put on a tiny bit of weight and we are joining a gym and I’m trying to just focus on health. Her best mate stopped coming round so much recently and so they don’t have sleepovers - Amy dd won’t have sleepovers anymore other the this one friend she just talks about how everyone annoys her - this really worries me

what are your experiences of 14 years olds is this developmental?

I have a DD of a similar age who is AUDHD and in my experience big changes in behaviour are usually stress related. For my DD when she had a significant behaviour change the stress was caused by bullying. I would have a chat with school to let them know ow what is happening and see what help they can offer.

With my DD if I want to talk to her I will usually do it in the car in a conversational way rather than a let's sit down and talk. I would ask about her closest friend, almost like your talking about the friend rather than your dd. Something along the lines of " how is "insert name" managing with their GCSEs?". Keep digging until you get something you can go with and then ask how that makes your DD feel? Keep it light, like a normal conversation checking in on her friends wellbeing. If my DD gets a little anxious ect I just change back to other topics like what she wants for dinner.