To ask why woman stay?

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doonnaKay · 07/02/2026 18:22

My mother stayed in an unhappy marriage. It wasnt bad enough to leave I guess, but now that shes older I'm sad that she tolerated her unhappiness for so long.

I'm in my 40s and have settled into a life where I do not have a partner, but im very content. I'm trying to to understand why she stayed. She would have been financially okay if she had left. Her kids would have been better off not growing up in such an unhappy house.

I'm just wondering why do woman stay? They all have their own reasons, but there must be overlap.

I'm just trying to understand, sorry in advance is my wording or questions offend xx

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Newyearawaits · 09/02/2026 20:13

Zov · 07/02/2026 21:39

Nailed it! Many women stay in unhappy, average, dead, or dull marriages even now. If they are rubbing along OK together, and there is no abuse of any kind, many women stay, and so do the men, because it's easier than leaving, and many people don't want their lifestyle to change. What is anyone going to achieve by leaving if it's just a bit of a dull marriage? They won't be any happier, they will be poorer, and they will probably end up more miserable than they were in the average/boring/dull marriage.

I see many women who are single or divorced in their middle age who are on the bones of their arse and have to work all the hours God sends just to pay the bills. They are miserable, and look like shit. They look a decade older than their age, because they're run ragged. They rarely see their children, because they're always bloody working.

Some women I know are more like flatmates with their husband, but they get on OK, and have a laugh sometimes, and they have company, so don't get lonely, and the double income gives them a nice life.

People are deluded if they think women stay in a dull marriage because they are ashamed of divorce. They stay because they are often better off financially, and it suits them! (Men do too!)

This is why many celebrities split up so often/have such short relationships, because when they get a bit fed up of each other/the relationship gets a bit 'drab' they are not forced to stay together because of finances. They can both afford to leave.

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My experience is that there are a lot of unhappy looking people who aren't happily married and alot of single /divorced women who have an inner glow from the freedom it brings.
I talk from experience when I say that I know the financial challenges of being a single parent

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