Sharing pics with in laws

[Bumblebeehee]

My DH set up an iCloud photo sharing account with both sets of his parents. Every weekend he shares all the photos we have of the kids with them. I have said numerous times times that only to share a handful but he uploads pretty much all photos we have of the week. I told him I feel it’s an invasion of our privacy, we have nothing sacred of our kids between ourselves only. He says what’s the matter as it’s nothing sensitive (which it isn’t) but I still think it’s too much. His mum is so nosey, she questions what she has seen in lots of the photos etc. maybe trying to generate a conversation with the kids but I just cringe every time. I don’t do this with my parents. I unsubscribed from the account and the family WhatsApp group in protest!

I will add that he has his in-laws lined up to be here for a week before my due date, which I do not want. Last time they knocked on my bedroom door every morning to see if my contractions started…. Just to give you an idea how nosey they are!! They go through our cupboards, documents if they are lying around…. So maybe you can see why I am getting annoyed!!

AIBU and should get over it?

You’re not being unreasonable by not wanting in-laws there before you give birth
especially as they seem to be interfering. I wouldn’t have removed myself from the WhatsApp or the ICloud though. I agree with you. Only a few select photos should be posted. I don’t think MIL is doing any harm in asking questions about the pics though.

Why are you having another child with a man who clearly disregards your opinion.

Winday surely he's allowed to disagree with her on something. He's not there just to do as he's told!

What's wrong with asking questions about the photos. Is it nosey or showing an interest

I’m think you are making too big a deal of the photos.

Photos he’s taken, he’s allowed to do whatever he wants with them. Photos you’ve taken, don’t share if you don’t want to.

Everyone takes far too many photos of their children anyway.

Having just lost the second of my husbands parents since our children were born (still primary age) I would give anything to be able to share photos with them, respond to their intrigue and questions.

You do realise these are your children’s biological grandparents . You sound controlling and unfriendly.

The photos wouldn’t bother me that much (depending on if I’m in them at all and look like shit or something). But I’d be putting my foot down about them staying with you so close to your due date. You need that time to be as chill as possible, not stressed out because of those nosy bellends.

It’s nosey when she asks who’s that person you are there with. What were you doing. Why did you move that table to there…Blah blah blah Rather than my parents for example would say ‘that’s a cute pic’ or ‘they look like they had fun’. … There’s a difference in questions …. Nosey.

Agree!! There are photos where I look like shite! Husband knows how to take crap photos of me! lol

But surely they are asking your husband these questions. Why are you getting involved

No they are not biological… it includes step dad who is weird. Sorry to hear about your loss though.

Agree here. If he agreed with me all the time
then he’d be considered a walk over which is not my cup of tea. We keep each other on our toes with healthy debates.

I think you are being very unreasonable to tell your husband he can’t send his own pictures, of his own children to his own parents. I don’t think her questions sound particularly nosey, just interested. I think you’re probably at the stage where she’s pissed you off so often in other contexts that now everything she says
and does is grating.

You are very much not being unreasonable to not want them staying while you’re heavily
pregnant, and to not want them to read your private documents.

YABU and wildly precious about the photos

YADNBU about staying pre-due date. Nope!! Definitely shut that down

Thank you, however I never said to him he couldn’t send pictures, I said a handful is fine to keep them interested, not all our combined pictures from the whole week. They basically have a carbon copy of our camera roll which I think is unreasonable.

Erm no he isnt ! Op gets to have a say about pics that involve HER children regardless to took the pictures. What is nonsense that if hes taken the pics he can do what he likes. No he cant.

Think he sends all the pictures as he couldn't be bothered to edit them . It's a minor thing and they might be thinking FFS Now we have to pretend to be interested and ask questions.

No way though to hanging around while you are having a baby . He can call them as soon as baby is born . Well maybe the day after ...

Your MIL sounds a PITA.

How does he get your photos? I can’t see how you can control what photos he takes and sends his own family. Appreciate it feels smothering but it’s also nice that they’re so interested in your kids.

Your birth, your rules though. That’s an easy one!