Is my friend BU?

[UnreasonableFriend]

NC as to not out myself or friend.

I’m in a bit of a weird situation and would love some perspective. My friend is going through a separation and is in discussions with her ex partner about selling their jointly owned home. She is adamant that she needs to stay in the home (with two primary aged kids) and refuses to accept that when partners separate, it usually means there will be some compromise. She’s now in discussions with her ex about selling or buying out, but she’s not coming to the table with any reasonable offers. I can imagine the legal fees are wracking up!

Thus far I’ve been a very agreeable friend and have supported her in her “fight,” but I’m beginning to feel she’s a bit unreasonable to think she can continue to live in a £1M home and drag her feet. I can’t even imagine what her new partner thinks about all this!

Everything I read says that unless the children are ill or need special accommodations, the courts will want a clean break. She doesn’t make much money herself, so I’m not sure how she’s even going to afford going to court.

Anyway, I guess I’m also asking: should I try and talk some sense into her or maybe just distance myself from her for a little while? And any tips for helping her think logically about this all?

Most people aren’t looking for advice. They’re mainly just venting frustration & looking for validation i do believe if you thought she was looking for genuine advice then you’d be able to give it, the fact you’re pussyfooting around and agreeing with her but secretly not says you’re trying to give her what she wants to hear. I’d be a sounding board. Slag the ex off if it makes her happy but stop offering opinion on Her divorce settlement

Who instigated the split? Is it possible she’s trying to ‘punish’ her ex?

But yes, be her friend, listen to her issues but just repeat you can’t advise as it’s a complicated matter and wouldn’t want to risk giving her incorrect information.
But if she wants your opinion? That’s a matter for you if you want to give it.
Just nod and smile, nod and smile.

she did, but I think she thought he would chase after her and he didn’t.

Partner, which I’ve read makes things even more convoluted

Keep quiet. Reality will hit home at some point and “I told you so” never goes down well

Yes exactly! And for a while I was on her side and felt like she deserved what she was asking for, but the more I think about it, the more I realise how one-sided and unreasonable she’s being

IMO she is being unreasonable. She chose to end her relationship, she's moved on now and instead of thinking about this situation in advance she's trying to manipulate the ex based on the kids housing.

Lots of families end up separating and the woman stays in the house until kids are out of school but sometimes sit doesn't happen.

Does she want her new man to move in?

Having said all that... I also think of she was my friend ao would just say "I'm really not sure, it's not as clean cut and I guess you'll just have to get legal advise"

If she kept wanting an opinion from me, I think I'd be honest taht actually I don't agree with her take, but it doesn't matter whether I agreed or not.