Writing on here in a new post as my husband decided to come on here and write a post yesterday and although I responded, I feel like my response gets lost in all the posts and I would like fair opinions based on my pov. We have just booked a last minute holiday to Dubai. It just so happens we are overlapping with friends who are also in Dubai but staying in a different resort and my husband would like to play golf with the other man. My problem with this is that we have 3 young children ages 6, 3 and 8 months, and it is going to compromise a day or afternoon of the holiday for the rest of us. Firstly he is suggesting we go to the hotel our friends are staying at and I spend the afternoon there then get ready for dinner there and then we all have dinner, which seems like a logistical nightmare with 3 young kids and it not being our hotels and not having our own room to get ready in. Or the other option is to stay at our hotel on my ow with the kids. I think this will be challenging and unsafe considering their ages. I’m thinking about being around a pool and having to tell my daughters than can only swim close to me, thinking about my 8m old having a nap and me having to tell the other they need to stay round the lounger whilst he’s sleeping where I can see everyone, thinking about how I will have to take everyone to the toilet with me at the same time if someone needs a toilet. Of course I will manage and be able to do it all but I feel like I shouldn’t have to, and it’s going to effect the kids day and they will spend the whole day like ‘mummyyyy I want to go in the pool over there’ and me constantly being like ‘oh no sorry we can’t right now coz Daddy’s not here’. It’s just not fair to go off right now whilst we have young kids. My husband said I can go and have an afternoon on my own if I want in return but I don’t want to because 1 my favourite thing is spending time as a family so I’m genuinely not bothered, 2 we have 3 kids and I worry about how my husband will look after them all safety around the pool etc without me and 3 I am breastfeeding and 8m old is still quite young to leave really. Last year when our youngest was only 2 months, DH wanted to invite golf friends and family on our annual Cornwall holiday and it was awful. The whole holiday was arranged around golf and it didn’t feel like a holiday for myself and the other golf wives at all. That was our last proper holiday and now golf is being mentioned again, I guess I’m feeling like ‘oh no not again’ after last year. On top of this, we were originally going to go on different dates and looked at the canaries too, and then husband all of a sudden found diff dates for us to go to Dubai using reward flights and we changed our dates, now taking the oldest out of school for longer. It’s occurred to me that if we kept the original dates we wouldn’t have overlapped apart from one day with our friends, and we literally saw them last weekend. So I question if all of this was orchestrated by him to change the dates so he could play all along with his mate after he told him where he planning to play on holiday. Feels a bit like he had a hidden agenda booking it. I like spending time with our friends but I’m not that bothered about spending time with them on holiday and it’s nice to keep it as just a family holiday. I am on maternity leave at the moment so have been like a sahm this year and it would be nice to have husbands help on holiday and leaving me on my own with the kids on holiday in a different environment will feel like just another day at home and not on holiday. I don’t think it’s too much to ask to ask husband to not play golf considering he played on our holiday a lot last year and compromised our annual family holiday and considering are kids are so young at the moment. In the future this would be fine when the kids are a bit more self sufficient..