Fucking in-laws!!!

[RealReginaPhalange]

I am so so fed up with them!!! Always troubles and eventually falling out, i am always the bad one. Since the last big fall out, after we tried to patch things up i was not interested in going out of my way to please them (and believe me i tried so hard! Was always put down)

I left it to my husband from that point, all contact (and they had rocky relationship, childhood abuse), was on him. He has changed his job so was home almost every day, they live far away so time difference but could always call him, text him, and i was always polite when they were on the phone, small talk etc but never too deep. Fine, i guess it works both ways. Didnt get condolences last year when my dad lost his battle to cancer, didnt get bday wishes, we (me, dh and dc) came back from my home country, my brother got married, dh has mentioned it to them and what did they say? “Oh ok”, no how was it, no how were the boys or anything. I had an important exam, their answer “oh ok”, no “how did it go”…few other important events in my life, they made sure to show how little they care. Fine. My politeness wasnt enough, fair enough. Fuck it. I have gone through enough because of them and i need to protect my mental health now.

So now we are going to have our little boy christening and my family came to stay for a weekend (from my home country in Europe), dh hasnt mentioned this to them before, in laws got sooo upset they didnt know because as they said “your wife had no decency to tell us”, well we dont call each other for almost two years now! Be upset with your son! Why me again. Its not their religion, I invented them out of decency for the christening of first dc and sha laughed they wont be coming to that and spend thousands on tickets (i get it, they wouldn’t understand the service-different language, not their religion, it would cost them a lot, i wasnt expecting them to come at all)

so now they blamed me for all the shit, saying how my dh is close to my family and how has he changed…wtf?! You barely had any relationship with him before i came in the picture wirh years of no contact!!! I am not the problem of your rocky relationship!

thanks for reading. Just want to vent

And vent you shall! 😆😉

Better out than in! Have nothing to do with them, tell DH not to pass on any shitty comments from them and have a wonderful christening.

How do you know this? How did they find out about the christening if you didn't tell them?

Sounds like you have a bit of a dh problem if he's saying 'my parents think you are evil'.

Tell him the in laws are his to communicate with, you do not want to know what they say about you.

Glad you don't need to see them.

Thank you ladies. Last two years were bliss when i put my boundaries in place. Funny thing i said to someone they are a ticking bomb and soon they will bring some shit because they cannot handle life without drama and they always need to be victims

Oh there we go. On mumsnet everyone has husband problem 🙄 they called, asked about plans, he said this and that and shitstorm started. They sent a message with few things i said here, i read a message. Voila.

i dont have dh problem. Leave the poor man alone, the amount of times he cut them off and told them off for being out of line is insane. But relationships with parents are not easy or straightforward!