More a WWYD? Purse handed in at supermarket where I left it behind.

[Redheadedstepchild]

I got a phone call at 7pm, (closing time) from my local supermarket saying that they'd found my purse with all my cards in.

I suppose that they must have found my phone number from my loyalty card. This is a small store in a village where I have lived for 26 years.

I don't suspect anybody of stealing any money and I hadn't missed my wallet at all, walking home.

But what is the polite thing to do here? The woman who phoned me was quite insistant that her name was Nathalie. Should I offer a bit of a reward?

I'll walk back there first thing tomorrow but Nathalie might not be on shift.

What do retail workers think?

I'm not surprised you second guess yourself so much with your mother acting like that. Try not to take her too seriously of course - I can see you are trying, but don't let it seep in. Glad you got your card back and nice to hear about the man who found it.

Why did you call your mum for moral
support? What did you need support for? You lost your wallet, someone found it and someone called to let you know you could pick it up. What on earth did you need moral
support for?
Maybe your mum had a point about you living alone.

People who get a lot of over-the-top criticism from family, especially from their primary carer which the mother very likely was, often lack the confidence to make decisions. That is probably what we are seeing here. Mother's reaction was a lot of silly drama but OP has probably been exposed to it all her life.

One of the worst effects of this is that people often keep going back to try to get approval so they are constantly getting more doses of criticism and more kicks when they are down. Like having your own personal raincloud following you around.

Hope life gets better, OP

So your mum sounds semi-abusive…which leads to you doubting yourself to the extent of needing advice on collecting your own lost property.

You sound genuinely lovely, and your mum sounds truly awful. Worth thinking about how she’s affected your self-esteem? That seems the real story here.

I would give a small reward in a thank you card, and a bunch of flowers to whoever had handed my purse in and thank my lucky stars that there are still some honed people left.

She lives in her own world. I can't do much more than emigrating to a foreign country and being myself.

I'm trying to make my peace with her now she's 84. (I was a late surprise when she was in her forties)

I let Lynn at the supported living arrangement handle her for the most part.

On one of the rare occasions I went back to England to see her, apparently I was, "An air hostess for Air France and a model."

I worked as a tour guide for the bus company, a nanny, childminder and cleaner of tourist villas. Being a tour guide on a bus was actually my zenith. Because I didn't just get to be a tour guide on a bus, I had to maintain the. "Lost in the 1980''s" system of blurry faxes, writing everything out in ledgers, and various collywobbles of my boss, "Monsieur Vincent" of the very excellent but completely malfunctioning hôtel and transport company.

He made Basil Fawlty seem calm. God bless him.

On further thinking, I have placed the elderly gentleman who turned in my purse to Nathalie. I looked after his grandson who had Down's.for a bit. I've been every kid in this town's baby-sitter or something at this point.

I'm waiting for the day when they stop calling me, "Tatie" and start on, "Mamie"

Everything will be alright. I am warm and dry and have a bit of snap for tonight.

My mum has moved on. She always does. She's got neighbours to bother about leaves and doormats and smells of onions.

I'm a supermarket manager. We have only just recently been allowed to accept gifts from members of the public but not money. I would suggest reaching out to the companies social media team or if they have one of those anonymous review things leave a review on that and mention her. If you really want to get her something just something little some chocolates would be a kind gesture. If she was a member of my team and I heard about what she had done through social media or my own companies review app I would reward her with a company gift card. Also you must have your number in your wallet because the loyalty card scheme shouldn't be giving out your details that's a gdpr breach

A box of chocs would be much appreciated I am sure.

It's too late now !

Natalie was given ' a Haribo bucket of mini packs of sweets.'
followed by the Op saying ' "It's for the children." '

If this had happened in the UK I guess the sweets would have been donated by Natalie to the trolly for the food bank donations.

Of course you’re overthinking. Just go and collect it.

If I'm Natalie, French or British Natalie, I am eating them and blessing kind OP 😂