Husband wants another holiday with friends

[MerryRedBiscuit]

Around 18months ago my husband went abroad with a group of friends (inc. his brother). I am a teacher and it was in term time so I was unable to go. Then last year he went on a stag do abroad and to a wedding abroad (again in term time).
This year we are hoping to have a family holiday with our two teenagers - which we have not done for several years. He’s now said that his friends are planning another ‘friends holiday’ during a time I can’t make (term time!!). I’ve said I don’t think we can afford both. He’s now being really off with me…. Am I being unreasonable?! To have a nice family holiday abroad will be a bit of a stretch financially and now he’s trying to squeeze in another friends trip. I just feel like he’s prioritising his friends over family.

If you can afford both then no issue but as you’ve said you can only afford one then family always comes first!

Ask him to explain to his children why they can’t go on holiday this year?

There is no do-over. Your children will only be this age once. If he does not go, or if he does go but is a big jerk sulking on the trip, he will regret it for the rest of his life.

The memories of this trip will come up on repeat when he's older. It will come up after he's dead. It is the kind of trip that families talk about for a lifetime. Your teens will talk about it to each other and to their families long after both of you are gone.

If he's not there, or if he does go but he's being miserable, his story for every generation will be the guy who was a sh*t to be around because he couldn't get blotto drunk and chase tail. (Not that he's catching tail, I'm just being emphatic.)

He has a duty to his children to be there, to be happy, and full of love. If he does that his rewards will be huge.

He has opted out. He enjoyed that holiday with his friends and is ambivalent about his family. I strongly suggest you watch your back. Good mdn, husbands and fathers do not behave like this. Cheater losers do.