Friend has called off her engagement. Would you still do something with her on what would have been her hen do weekend/wedding day?

[lilahpol]

A friend has broken up with her fiancé and a lot had been booked/arranged. On the weekend of what would have been her hen do and wedding would you offer to arrange something still? Maybe a spa break for a night, nice dinner out/theatre. To show you know it’s a tough time? Or would someone just want to forget it do you think. If it’s a complete no-no in people’s opinion I won’t even mention it to her! TIA.

That’s a kind thing to do - if a close friend yes do

If she’s a close friend, just ask her if she’d like to do something.

No one can give you an answer as we aren't your friend and don't know her. I couldnt even tell you how I'd feel if if happened to me

What would you want to do?

Lovely idea. Maybe ask first.

I would ask and let her know there’s no pressure for either option.

I think everyone would be different. It’s a considerate and kind thing to offer your friend … then take her lead!

A friend of mine's fiancè cancelled the wedding. She was deviatated and like your friend eveything was booked/organised. We still went on the hen do, it was a great big girly weekend in a hot country so we thought why not, its all booked and paid so it went ahead. On her "wedding day" she wanted a quiet one with her mum so we respected that

I'd ask her if she'd like to do anything. She may, she may not. It's hard to say.

It's not something i'd want to do. At all. I'd want to forget the dates ASAP so i didn't think about it for years to come. And i wouldn't want other people to make it clear they remembered the dates either (by suggesting we do something)
But other people are different!

I would offer to be with her on those dates and see what she says

Yes I would arrange something but I’d check first that she wanted to do something,

Ask her how she feels - everyone is different. Kind of you to think she might be distracting, but sometimes being around other people - even close friends - on significant dates can be hard and she might just want to hibernate and not see anyone. Mention it sensitively and then take your steer from there.

If you were my friend I would appreciate this, lovely of you. Xxx

Not been in that position but I don't think I would want to mark the day as such as it would obviously be bittersweet.

I actually know two people, sisters funnily enough, that this happened to and both of them went on a "Hen Don't" on the weekend of what would have been their hen do.

Offer to spend that weekend with her, but let her choose what you do if she says yes.

Ask her.
But.... At least she realised before she got married. She might want to see the positive RT hat she saved herself a life of trouble.
Be guided by what she wants.