To think that if this child is being confirmed he should know a little about compassion?

[Kimi]

So DS1 is being confirmed tomorrow I am so proud but it is his choice, despite me being thrilled he is taking this step I have not pushed him to it. ( I am confirmed DH not) So he has spent all last weekend and this Fri/Sat with the confirmation class that includes several of the local churches. DS1 has tourettes and tics, motion and vocal (no cuss words) one of his fellow confirmation candedates has repeataly called DS1 a retart now DS has a reason to do what he does (and a 148 IQ) this child just seems to be a stupid nasty little shit.
I think instead of standing befor God tomorrow and pledging to follow in the teachings of Christ he might like to go get some compassion.

(Sorry for the non beleivers but so cross I had to vent)

{blush} retard ever.....you know what I mean

Absolutely with you Kimi - that's ridiculous behaviour.

Don't suppose there's any time to talk to the priest before tomorrow is there?

TBH Lewis, I am SO bloody tempted to speak to the parents... This boy is in DS1s scout pack and calls him names there too.

DS1 gets hurt by it and it is really hard to see, although he deals with it better then I do, he just says "mum I stand out so I get a whole lot of ugly coming from a long line of stupid"!!!!

"a whole lot of ugly coming from a long line of stupid" - your DS is VERY wise!!!

I'd speak to the parents - if the child doesn't stop, you could have him spoken to about harrassment; it could be taken THAT seriously.

I'd also speak to the Akela/Kim at Scouts too. He sounds like a bully and IME most Scout Leaders/Church leaders would be appalled at the attitude and language.
Hope your ds1 has a smashing confirmation tomorrow kimi

His parents are BOTH scout/beaver leaders....but oh by gum I will be speaking to them....

Lewis, he got that line from hairspray

I'm really shocked it's tolerated at scouts.

I love my DS going to Beavers, as it seems to be the last place where boys being kind is cool.

I would have though the priest could have a word about what being confirmed requires of the other boy and put it in this context, although am absolutely no expert on the subject of confirmation.

I wouldn't make a thing with the priest about the appropriateness of confirmation - I agree that the kid sounds mean, but I'm sure none of them is perfect - all works in progress etc

Would definitely speak to his parents, because it's bullying.

Good on your DS for not letting it get to him!

All went well today, DS1 was brill.
30 friends and family came to the church and we have had a wonderful afternoon (and way too much bubbly and cake) DH will be having a word wih childs parents at Beavers tomorrow, Church was not the place.

One of the priests told my sister that DS1 was one of the nicest children she had ever met! grin

So proud of my oldest son........ but bloody knackerd now grin

I gave a speech just before he cut the cake saying and I qoute.......

The wonder and joy you feel looking at a small helpless life you have been blessed with is followed by the fear that you wont be good enought and you will mess up this amazin gift you have been given, as parents mr kimi and I are still as work in progress, but when I look at ds1 and see the remarkable young man he is and the person he is becoming I know we must be doing something right... DS1 may not fit in to the boxes some feel he should but he is making his own box to fit his needs and when I look back over the last 12 years it is with wonder and pride when I see how much he has achived and how much he has taught us..
I think DS1 is lucky to have so many family and friends here today and so many good wished from those who could not be here, but I also think we are lucky to know this lovely young man, me most of all as I am blessed to be his mother.......
Wont bore you with the whole thing but I can't tell DS1 enough how very proud of him I am and how much I love him, so if anyone calls my son a retard it is them who have the problem and not my son, I know whitch one I think has a strangr way of seeing the world, and its not the one I gave birth too.