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Sweetly1 · 2026-02-02T13:28:00+00:00

Hi Ladies I want to find out what ladies are doing to make a comfortable income around their primary school children and still have time for family? Kindly advise?

AliceRose1971 · 04/02/2026 17:46

Kitte321 · 04/02/2026 17:12

This response badly mischaracterises what many people are actually saying, and in doing so it sidesteps two uncomfortable but relevant truths.
First, in many cases being a SAHM is a choice, choices have trade-offs. Pointing out those trade-offs is not “bitterness,” “contempt,” or some vendetta against women who stayed home; it’s a basic acknowledgement of how labour markets work. Time out of the workforce has consequences for skills, networks, and perceived value. That reality exists whether anyone “enjoys” stating it or not.
Second, market forces are not a moral judgement. They are indifferent. After a long absence from paid employment, it is simply not realistic to expect to re-enter the workforce at a high level without substantial retraining, recent experience, or a highly specialised background. Saying this is not the same as declaring someone “amounts to nothing” or deserves to struggle. It’s managing expectations in line with economic reality, not trying to be cruel.
Accusations that posters are “revelling in put-downs” or acting out some grievance against SAHMs conveniently shut down any honest discussion. Discomfort is being reframed as oppression. Hard truths are being recast as misogyny.
As for the more extreme or inappropriate comments (e.g. references to porn or prostitution), those can and should be condemned. They are not representative of the broader point being made, and using them to smear all criticism as incel-adjacent is disingenuous.

No one is saying the OP owes anyone an apology for being a SAHM. But nor is she entitled to have the economic consequences of that choice ignored. Asking for career advice necessarily invites honest answers, including answers she may not like. Acknowledging limits imposed by time away from the workforce is not punishment, resentment, or cruelty; it’s realism.
Pretending otherwise doesn’t empower women. It sets them up for disappointment.

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But being a SAHM isn’t a choice for so many women who end up doing it. It might start as a temporary option but you can easily get trapped in it. Please please look at all the research on this.

Cyclingmummy1 · 04/02/2026 17:48

You have a level 2 TA qualification and want a U3 teacher salary?

AliceRose1971 · 04/02/2026 17:53

NiftyBlueRobin · 04/02/2026 14:07

I completely agree @AliceRose1971

No wonder the OP hasn't returned, why would she when so many posters are obviously taking pleasure in telling her she'll amount to nothing better than a minimum wage worker because she had the audacity to be a SAHM, and banging on about 'entitlement'? Many on here, though they're denying it, clearly resent women who make different choices to them and want to see them suffer for doing so (note all the 'well I toiled in the workforce for years and SACRIFICED; if I had to struggle and suffer then all other women have to too! Otherwise it's not fair on ME' type posts).

Note also the multiple people who have made jabs about how the OP may want to consider porn or prostitution, comments which wouldn't look out of place on an incel forum. But sure, all these posters are doing is simply managing the OP's expectations in an objective manner, they're not revelling in it or enjoying the put downs at all. /s

The bitterness and contempt expressed for women who are perceived to have had it easier than them is so sadly misplaced; the OP is not responsible for the hardships experienced by working mothers, nor does she owe anyone an apology for being a SAHM. The OP has not insulted or thrown judgement at anyone, she has asked for advice on career options, that is it.

Completely agree. The suggestion to try porn or prostitution just sums up the spirit of this thread. My mind is blown!

Kitte321 · 04/02/2026 17:58

AliceRose1971 · 04/02/2026 17:46

But being a SAHM isn’t a choice for so many women who end up doing it. It might start as a temporary option but you can easily get trapped in it. Please please look at all the research on this.

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There is choice. The only situation where there is a lack of choice (IMO) is the deeply dissatisfactory situation surrounding early years provisions for those with severe SEN.
But even that (in most cases) more readily resolves at school age.
There is the child care element of UC, free hours (I do know the issues here which I have referred to). In the vast majority of cases there is choice. Having children, and the timing of that, is also a choice.

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 04/02/2026 19:20

AliceRose1971 · 04/02/2026 17:53

Completely agree. The suggestion to try porn or prostitution just sums up the spirit of this thread. My mind is blown!

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It’s probably the most realistic way to get £50k a year from home during school hours.

ThatCyanCat · 04/02/2026 19:57

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 04/02/2026 19:20

It’s probably the most realistic way to get £50k a year from home during school hours.

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I could earn twice that by threatening to take my clothes off unless people pay me.

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 04/02/2026 20:25

ThatCyanCat · 04/02/2026 19:57

I could earn twice that by threatening to take my clothes off unless people pay me.

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Maybe OP could do that then! 😂

NiftyBlueRobin · 05/02/2026 09:07

@Kitte321 I suppose we'll have to agree to disagree with the spirit of some of the comments on this thread, as I don't agree with you that the motive of most has been to manage the OP's expectations objectively. A woman should be able to come to a forum to ask for work advice without being called entitled, delusional, audacious, to name just a few of the accusations waged at OP. She literally just wanted to hear what other women are doing to make decent money, and many have taken that as a personal attack for some reason.

My comment about the porn and prostitution posts belonging on an incel forum was specific to those posts, and I think that was perfectly clear. I find the fact that you're ignoring the emotive, angry language used by many posters and claiming that they're just being realists rather disingenuous, personally. But we're allowed to have different opinions.

Kitte321 · 05/02/2026 09:13

NiftyBlueRobin · 05/02/2026 09:07

@Kitte321 I suppose we'll have to agree to disagree with the spirit of some of the comments on this thread, as I don't agree with you that the motive of most has been to manage the OP's expectations objectively. A woman should be able to come to a forum to ask for work advice without being called entitled, delusional, audacious, to name just a few of the accusations waged at OP. She literally just wanted to hear what other women are doing to make decent money, and many have taken that as a personal attack for some reason.

My comment about the porn and prostitution posts belonging on an incel forum was specific to those posts, and I think that was perfectly clear. I find the fact that you're ignoring the emotive, angry language used by many posters and claiming that they're just being realists rather disingenuous, personally. But we're allowed to have different opinions.

Certainly, we’re allowed to agree to disagree.
I just don’t think the way to address the use of incendiary language is to use more.

AliceRose1971 · 05/02/2026 12:51

Kitte321 · 05/02/2026 09:13

Certainly, we’re allowed to agree to disagree.
I just don’t think the way to address the use of incendiary language is to use more.

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Maybe I’ve missed something but where is the ‘incendiary language’?

Jk987 · 05/02/2026 12:52

What are your key skills and work history?

ShakyFridge · 05/02/2026 16:16

AliceRose1971 · 05/02/2026 12:51

Maybe I’ve missed something but where is the ‘incendiary language’?

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I could not see any either and I agree with @NiftyBlueRobin