Will try to keep this as short as possible. So just before xmas we had a falling out with BIL & SIL (DH brother & Partner). Both have MH issues and regularly take to Facebook to vent their woes. (Social services being out ro get them, homelessness jot being their fault despite messing up their tenancy, falling out with family in another part of the country, arguments turning physical). This time it was to slag off my family, stating they have had no help (despite us helping them out with social services when they were homeless and previously helping when no one else would because of previous shitty behaviour).
My BIL asked us to give his DP another chance as shes now having another baby (and wants to work on their relationship despite saying she couldn't commit to one man) and is really struggling with a 2yr old and a difficult pregnancy. After some pressure from an unwell MIL we decided to move on from previous animosity and for my nephew's sake, hoping things would improve.
Fast forward to now. My SIL is now back on full swing on Facebook. Seeking advice on what to do about childcare when the new baby comes because she has no help (from my BIL) and his family won't help. My nephew isn't in nursery and she cannot do it alone. She hasn't asked anyone to help (and BIL does everything, as he bloody well should). A part of me thinks this is possibly my fault because of the previous falling out, part of me thinks this is also to spin another narrative to make my family look bad again for not stepping in (again/as always).
AIBU to be annoyed at this? I know it is ONLY a facebook post but it feels goady. My BIL is just as bad as he enables the behaviour and in many ways encourages it. They weren't even in a "relationship" officially when she fell pregnant again the second time apparently. I said it doesn't happen by magic. 😒
I am so worried about my nephew being in that environment. He doesn't understand. They are always fighting and arguing.