Hen do activity

[dondon0]

My Maid of Honour is currently planning my hen do, with some input from my bridesmaids. It’s a weekend abroad so I’ve offered to pay for myself as it’s not fair for others to cover the cost. This is somewhere that the bridesmaids have been a few times.

I don’t know what the rough itinerary is and none of the potential activities have been booked yet.

My maid of honour has told me that the bridesmaids want to do a day long activity, which is quite expensive. The problem is that she knows I would hate it, which is why she’s told me. She’s told the bridesmaids it would be my idea of hell but they have all apparently said that they loved it and I will be fine.

I’m now in a situation where one of the three days will be spent doing something I don’t want to do, and it costing a bomb at the same time. AIBU to put my foot down and say absolutely not (which would seriously annoy the bridesmaids), or suck it up and let them plan the whole thing? I don’t want to be THAT kind of bride ☹️

Hmm, I might be in the minority but I’d let them do it for one of the days and chill by the pool. I’d not want to pay for something I hate on my own hen do, but I also think that a weekend abroad is a big commitment for someone else’s hen do and I’d be ok with combining my celebrations with something they want to do.

It’s just me, MOH and bridesmaids.

Fuck no.

If you're paying for it, the least they can do is not book an activity you'll hate!

I think that's ok to split into 2-3 groups if some want to do something different for a day. You can organise different activities and let people choose.
But you can't have everyone going and leave the bride on her own by the pool!
Even leaving her just with the MOH is rude and lame.

Utterly bizarre that the closest people in your life are happy for you to do something you hate at your own hen do. I'd be rethinking my friendships.

What activity is it? Is there an alternative you can suggest that would be similar? I think either you or your MoH needs to step in and put a foot down on this before money gets committed to it.

In my circle we would usually offer one opt-out kind of activity (that we know everyone won't be into).

Shouldn’t be the bride though that sits activities out on her own hen do surely?

OP I would suggest you say you want to be involved in planning and would like an input

I agree... hence why I said the MOH should organise something for the bride.

A hen abroad is bloody expensive so I can see why some people might want to suit themselves to a degree also