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AIBU?

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To feel guilty that I’m not with DM

27 replies

Inforgotten · 30/01/2026 19:28

DM lives alone , very few friends anymore and no hobbies. Was involved in grandchildren as (paid) childminder and I know would like more family time.

Today we went shopping and I was telling DM my plans for the next 3 nights - cinema with DH, MIL birthday dinner and theatre with a friend.

I asked DM would she like to come out with me saturday or sunday for lunch and she has said no in a sulk, clearly upset that I am not including her in any evening plans.

For context, last weekend I went to her house for dinner , some wine and then during the week I popped up for tea and a chat so she is not neglected by any means.

Tomorrow afternoon one of my DDs will pop up for a couple of hours.

I feel guilty , I know it’s unreasonable but I just don’t seem to have enough days in the week to keep everyone happy ! AIBU ?

OP posts:
FuzzyPuffling · 31/01/2026 16:25

I don't think this is about "entertaining", it's about love and relieving loneliness and feeling valuable to your family.

Flamingojune · 31/01/2026 17:06

Miranda65 · 31/01/2026 16:17

It's not your job to entertain your mother, OP. Does she not have friends? (You say "very few", but that means that there are some).

Edited

Hanging out with your loved ones shouldnt be seen as a job

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