To feel like I should just do the cooking as well?

[bettyblackdog]

Dp says he’s happy to do the cooking if I decide what we will have, source ingredients and decide when we should have it.

i feel like with having to do these steps I may as well cook it. I will give him credit that he will be home from a 12 hour shift a couple of days a week but he feels the same should apply on his days off. I’m happy to do the cooking but he’s more a cook from scratch person where as I’m a happy to eat beige food out the freeze some time.

he will come home from work and ask what I want him to make then will proceed with do you want me to do it like this or that. What time do you want it for etc. he says he’s just trying to make sure it’s how I like it but I feel like I may as well do it myself. Aibu to feel like this?

Oh good grief. I mean if you have a disability that means someone helping in the kitchen makes a big difference maybe… But like you say once you’ve done all the emotional labour there you might as well do it yourself.

Or if you’re a massive fusspot who needs things doing just so. But from the beige food from the freezer comment I’m guessing not.

I think he should sort the meals on his day off - perhaps with a concession that if he tells YOU what he is cooking and what ingredients he needs, you’ll sort the shopping while he’s a work the day before.

At very least meal planning should be joint