Will try to be quick, as getting ready for work. My youngest daughter is 16 (nearly 17) and has left school, which for several reasons didn’t go well for her at all. She is now at college and doing really well. She’s much happier and has made some friends. Her closest friend on the course is 19; I’ve met her and she’s a lovely girl. My daughter is fairly mature in some ways, so the age gap doesn’t matter. It’s not a particularly academic course (and not 6th form college - we’re in Scotland), which is why there’s a range of ages.
The friend lives with her boyfriend, who is 25. My daughter has met him before and says that he’s really nice, a sweet and nerdy type. She has never been to their place before as it’s about an hour away. So she has met him when he has picked up the friend from college.
My daughter and her friend have planned a sleepover for next weekend. If it was just the girls, that’d be fine. But the boyfriend will be there, an adult male who is unknown to me.
Would I be unreasonable to stop my daughter from going? I’m delighted that she now has a social life and have always encouraged my kids’ friendships. But I don’t feel entirely comfortable with this situation.