Is this normal from men in general and how they cope with children, AIBU to consider leaving over this.
Husband and I have been together for 13yrs with 3 primary aged children. The children seem to constantly stress him out and I don't think he deals very well with being a father. My view is that this is how children behave and shouting and getting stressed every time they misbehave does not achieve anything...its constant, if he thinks they're taking too long on the loo he'll shout, if they misbehave and have sibling arguments he'll shout, they are quite demanding and often constantly ask for stuff, he'll shout at that and shout 'what now', constantly saying that our boys are driving him mad and that they're a 'nightmare'. I end up doing everything for them and picking up the pieces because when he deals with things this way, they come crying to me, don't want him to do anything with them, don't want me to pop out, they'd rather their dad so that I can stay with them and not him. I'm the first to admit that I'm probably abit soft and much more of a 'gentle parent' but when hes not here there are no issues, arguments get resolved nicely, they listen to me (they don't listen to him), there's no drama, we get out for school with no shouting matches. Would appreciate any advice? I just want a calm, chill life not this constant battle to get anything done because of the way he deals with stuff. One prime example is doing the school run today, he hyped our boys up so much that they became too silly and uncontrollable to get ready for school, I knew exactly that it would lead to that...never happens on the mornings he's not hear. He then starts saying what's wrong with them, I can't get them ready and I say it's because you've hyped them up. He says what he always says 'it's always my fault' with never any accountability for what he's done or the fact that it is his fault!