DH has a varied shift pattern which means he often has mid week days off when DD is at school. Even when he has to work a weekend they only do half shifts. So not difficult hours at all. He has also just had 2 weeks off while I've still been at work. Am I unreasonable to have had a go at him that none of the big house jobs have been done in this time? He uses his free days to do whatever he likes and I think it's really selfish! Of course making time for yourself is important, but he has such a luxury regularly being off with no childcare responsibilities. It feels like he just doesn't prioritise important things that need doing. We have this conversation all the time and nothing changes.