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AIBU?

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To ask, would you contact him or give space?

2 replies

ScullyD · 28/01/2026 19:23

I have a friend that is going through a hard time. I should say we’ve met once six months ago and since then the friendship has been online due to distance. Anyway, we’ve been confidantes for a while. He’s helped me through hard times and lately I helped him through some stuff. He was opening up about his depression and difficulties when he suddenly fell off the map a week ago.

This was odd because we were due to catch up on a video call then I never heard from him which did annoy me. On the other hand, what if his lack of reply is because he’s struggling?

in the past year, I’ve reconnected with two friends who have had mental health issues. Both avoided getting back in touch because they felt guilt for ghosting me. Should I 100% give him space and wait for him or should I just send a short message saying hope he’s ok and I’m still here to talk down the line?

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ScullyD · 28/01/2026 19:24

Usually I am quite prideful about getting in touch when ignored but I’m not sure here.

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Endofyear · 28/01/2026 22:11

I would be more worried than annoyed to be honest. I would message that you hope he's ok and say you're there if he needs you.

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