Male / Female split of tasks in your relationship?

[BetterOffNow]

Following the driving thread I just wondered how many people have tasks which they consider to be his or hers?
Both my partner and I had lived on our own for many years before living together so had to do all the jobs which means we both still do stuff as it needs doing without any 'that's my / your job'.
Obviously if there's something one of us is better at there's some wiggle room with this, but both of us are perfectly capable and willing to do anything which needs doing.

YABU - there are still traditional male / female jobs in our house
YANBU - anything goes, unless one partner has particular skills

We have blue and pink jobs! Honestly it works for us, appreciate it doesn’t for everyone. If I was ill (and when I have been) DH has done the pink jobs too, same way I’ve done the blue when he was sick. I like not having to touch a bin and will happily designate anything I think is gross to a blue job 😂

DH is in the Army. He's away a lot.

Hence the only real "Man" job is he deals with the taxes, mortgages, bills etc as he can do that from his work accommodation in the evening, while I deal with all the practical stuff like homework, cooking, bins, minor DIY etc.

DH does all the household tasks in the main.

We tend to swap and swap about jobs, eg the same person doesn’t do the washing up every day it just depends who has time or isn’t sorting the kids out. Exemptions are:
Drilling - we share a lot of DIY tasks but I hate drilling
Dog stuff- I tend to do this as it’s my dog that needs more time/work

Our division of labour falls into very stereotypical lines for the most part.
Suits me fine and truth is, he does far more than I do because I'm pretty lazy and he doesn't mind.

It depends who is working the most. Currently he is working full time in a very physical job and i am working very little, mostly SAHM situation so i do everything at home but in the past i have worked more and he did all the home jobs and cooking.

DH and I just split our chores according to our strengths and maintain the common goal of always earning enough to outsource the parts neither of us want to do. I won’t cook so he does that; I quite like laundry so I do that. There isn’t, really, a lot of much to be done: it’s just the two of us.

If we’re doing a big DIY job like laying a patio then he’s more likely to be the one lifting and laying the slabs whilst I faff about with a rake, simply because he’s physically stronger.

In our house my DP cooks the majority of the big meals (he is a much better cook than I am) and I might do a few quicker meals. We do one 'deep clean' a week which we divide equally. Throughout the week we are both pretty equal on general tidying (dishwasher, laundry etc.) and both pick up after ourselves.

We have a couple of split jobs but not based on traditional male/female roles.

DH does the bins - that’s the thing I will not do.
I do anything car related, but DH can’t drive due to a disability so that’s why that is. I also do home insurance since we used to have it bundled with the car insurance so I just do both. DH does utilities just because that’s the other occasional admin task that needs looking at.

Everything else is done by either of us. I probably do a little more cooking. He does more laundry. Housework/cleaning is evenly split.

I do more house stuff and childcare but he works a lot more hours then me so it evens out

We are very traditional. It gets a lot of hate, but works well for us. Of course we are completely capable of doing the other's 'job', but we both like knowing day to day what we are doing.

We split the chores into my jobs and his jobs but not along traditional gender lines - more in terms of who's best suited to them, whether that's because of skills or logistics.

He does all the cooking because he enjoys it and is amazing at it, whereas I can barely do a decent slice of toast. I wash up and clean the kitchen.

He does all the gardening because... ditto, really. I'm not a practical person. He does DIY too but that's not exactly a frequent chore.

I do the laundry and the bins and most of the hoovering because I WFH.

He cooks and sorts grocery buying
I wash up/ tidy kitchen in the morning/ sort breakfast generally tidy and do light cleaning
I do kids ( pick up/ drop off/ homework / admin / bed time/ bath supervision etc
he does finances/ mortgage/ bills
he does DIY
we have a cleaner who does most of laundry too- but if we didn’t pretty sure that would be me - I keep on top of it a bit as well

We both work full time. and I travel regularly

if needs be I can cook- and do, much to the kids surprise. He can also do the kids stuff.

so it’s generally a bit blue/ pink along classic lines- except for cooking which he does. And me working full time which isn’t typically pink I guess.

I do:

The vast majority of cooking
The vast majority of kitchen/bathroom cleaning
Most of the Hoovering and dusting
All the gardening
Any minor DIY like assembling a flat pack or putting up a picture, painting and decorating, mending things etc

DP does:

All the laundry - washing, drying, folding, ironing etc
The majority of dishwasher unloading
All the bins
Changes the beds
All the household admin - finances, insurance, bills, sourcing and arranging tradespeople etc, booking gigs/theatre/restaurants etc
All travel/holiday planning, organising, booking etc
All the driving and anything else car related

We never actually made a formal arrangement for this, though. It's just the way it seemed to work out. We can do each other's tasks if necessary, and we do when needed - except for the driving (I can't drive) and the gardening (DP's hayfever is so bad that if he cuts the grass, his eyes swell up, his chest tightens and he gets a rash up his arms).

DH does car maintenance, DIY, most gardening, some cooking, some grocery shopping, some cleaning although not enough, his share of paperwork, most nursery runs, some childcare, about 20% of the mental load (remembering what needs to be bought etc).

I do most cooking, cleaning, shopping, active childcare (as in not turning on cartoons), dressing children / bedtime, all tidying, laundry, driving to activities, organising social life, most of the household mental load.

In practice I am still responsible for more but he is not lazy.

Also, no way am I giving away all the stereotypical “blue jobs”! There’s a lot of satisfaction in fixing the problem with the car exhaust and coming in triumphant, covered in grease; or jumping into the brown bin wearing overalls to crush all the sticks and dead leaves down; or hauling a 40kg sack of sand for the duck coop up the hill from B&Q, in a camping trolley.

We have jobs that I do 90% of the time and my partner does 90% of the time and others that are who ever gets to it first.

My partner is incapable of seeing further into the future than about 2 days so I do any jobs that need planning - washing, shopping etc. I'm good at planning and looking ahead so this works. I'm not however very good at things that need doing every day but this is where my partners skill set is.

My partner finds that mess makes him anxious and likes things hidden. I find unorganised cupboards anxiety provoking so he does more tidying but then I do organise the cupboards so it's then easier to keep things tidy as everything has its own space.

For us it's very much about balance and playing to one anothers strengths

Me - walk dogs, organise stuff eg garage , clean cars, cook occasionally, stuff that wouldn’t normally get done eg waterproofing wax jackets, most of the DIY or I direct it (!)
him- all school drop offs and pick ups, most of the cleaning , most of the cooking, washing

Ours is kind of along classic lines to an extent, we have tasks we each typically do.

He does DIY and bins. I do cooking and food shopping. Gardening, he does all the heavy/hardwork jobs, I do the lighter stuff.

But he does all laundry and a much larger proportion of the cleaning because he's a much cleaner and tidier person than me.

He deals with most household finance stuff (but I also have my own account and own business so I deal with that). I deal with nearly everything child related including knowing what's happening when with the kids. He had the kids at home one day a week when they were small though. Now they're teens he'd mostly be inclined to let them get on on their own whereas I am much more involved in their lives, even the eldest who's away at uni. I did all the uni open days and admin.

He earns nearly twice as much as me but our joint account is everything is 'ours'. He doesn't have a separate account all his earnings go into the joint account.

Oh yeah and I nearly always drive and deal with car servicing but he washes the car. I mostly do my own bike maintenance vut he's better at it so sometimes helps.

We're probably stereotypical for some jobs, not others. I also work from home full time which I think skews things as I am 'available' in the home while my husband leaves at 7 and is home for 5.

I do
all cooking
food shopping (usually go with the kids)
probably 70% dishwasher
all laundry - wash, dry, put away.

He does
all cleaning - I don't touch it
daily tidying of kids toys etc
rubbish out to bins
about 30% dishwasher

I also do the majority of childcare as in school/nursery drop offs, all family admin like booking clubs, taking kids to appointments etc.

In his defence though he works 40 minutes away, if a kid had a dr appointment in the middle of the day he would have to take a day A/L whereas I can just take an hour's flexi time.

We're also doing up our house and he does the majority of any DIY, but it's me that will book tradesmen etc.

Very much the same here. He cooks & does grocery shopping, I clean and do the laundry. I let him think he's the expert on using the drill, and he's in charge of the car and the lawn. He cleans the bath (when asked) because it does my back in.
He works full time, I work part-time, both from home. That may be changing, but I suspect division of chores will stay the same as that's what suits us.
When DD was younger, I did the bulk of daytime childcare, evenings/weekends were fairly evenly split. I did have the bulk of the mental load on that, but I think it's fairly inevitable that one person keeps track of everything to avoid anything being forgotten.

Ours is quite traditional but I have a scoliosis of the spine so have had a lifetime of not doing heavy stuff especially pushing. Never mowed a lawn in my life for instance. I can do lighter DIY and have repaired a leaking sink and put together small flat pack furniture. DH can cook but I’m a decent cook who though not formally trained worked in kitchens as a teenager.

DH does most stuff especially the bins, laundry and dishwasher

We have blue jobs and pink jobs for sure. Works for us. eg I breastfeed the baby. He takes out the bins and changes the light bulbs and fixes things.
we both collaborate with cooking -currently I do most cooking since I’m at home more- we both do children’s bedtimes. I do most (99%) of the clothes laundry, he washes the cars and fills them with petrol, pumps tyres, mows lawn, gardening, and gross things like he collects any mice the cats bring back …

We don't really have assigned jobs. He will deal with car stuff because I don't drive.
I do more of the daily house tasks because I work part time, but if he's WFH he'll empty the dishwasher or whatever.
Currently we have a gardener but I used to to it (and will be doing again soon)
DIY we usually do together but he is absolutely in charge of the drill as I am too clumsy and don't trust myself!