Am I being needy AF? Tell me straight

[CocoChunnel]

So I started seeing this guy 6 months ago and he had such a beautiful tone by message. Our relationship has developed nicely and it feels really good and connected. Its long distance, we see each other every 3 weeks. It feels like things are deepening but Ive noticed his tone has shifted, he shares even more with me than he did before by message but its less affectionate in tone, less kind of romantic illf you see what I mean. We spent Christmas and NY together, met each others families, our conversations are getting more authentic and deeper but...

I kind of miss the early days when he was more gushy but am I being pathetic? Twll me straight. It feels less passionate on that level but maybe im just oversensitive to tone?

If he was gushy at the start, bearing in mind you really haven’t spent much time together even now after 6 months, then it wasn’t real. How can you be authentically gushy about someone you don’t know? Maybe this is now the real him you’re starting to see. In my experience, the ones that lead with over the top gushiness turn out to be dickheads. It’s all fake. Much better to let a genuine connection grow and say gushy things at a time when they’re actually meant.

Yes

You do sound needy, yes.

So he's moved his messages from gushy, romantic (not sure I'd be impressed with that ever) to more sharing and authenic.

Surely that's a good thing. In the beginning, it will style over substance. The eager to impress you stage to something more down to earth and honest.

Ott, gushy crap, rarely means anything anyway.

I agree with pps. I can't bear over sentimentality and if a guy came straight in with that at the start I'd be naturally wary and it would put me right off.

I wouldn't say you're needy necessarily, but perhaps a little naive and too easily impressed by shallow "womantic" declarations.

Maybe he assumed he had to do that because "all the ladies love that crap" but has toned it down because he feels more comfortable with you now.

Or maybe he was softening you up for abuse down the line.

Can you give an example that's not too outing? It's hard to know without seeing the tone/style of he has dramatically changed, if you're being needy or if it's something else.

You do sound very needy. Also its extremely early days into a long distance relationship so you still don’t really know each other.

You can’t expect a relationship to maintain that pitch all the way through: its a living thing that evolves.

Chill out and stop overthinking or you will push him away.

Define how an authentic conversation goes with him ?