Can’t deal with DH being ill!

[Stormyjanuary]

I woke up in the night feeling a bit crap, hot, achy, put it down to a cold. Before I could open my mouth this morning DH announced he doesn’t feel well and has spent the entire day on his deathbed. We have a newborn and toddler who I’ve been looking after.

I just can’t cope when he’s like this as he seems to be ill ALL the time, and whenever he is it’s always some illness that takes days to get over, in which time he’s just moaning. He won’t stand up straight, in the dressing gown of doom shuffling around, I had to laugh earlier and got shouted at for not having any sympathy.

I have been in and out of hospital since my baby was born and am facing more surgery, I’ve been extremely poorly and have only had 1 proper sleep since being discharged. I was really hoping he would take on the night feeds tonight as I let him sleep in until 9 at the weekend but looks like I’ll be up all night AGAIN.

That's awful OP. He's being a big, selfish baby!
Was he always like this or do you think he's just being lazy and opting out of parenting?

This is how the absolute biggest losers of husbands and fathers behave.
Sick at every opportunity to avoid sharing the load.
I call it a form of emotional abuse.
He never wants you to depend on him.
My advice to you is to reach out to family and tell the truth.
Do not protect him.
Secrecy protects him.
Tell your GP how muchbyou are struggling.
Do not under ANY circumstances get pregnant again.
Ask for help.
Get through this period.
Decide do you really want to remain married to such an arsehole.
In my experience men don't change.

He couldn't possibly love you or the children and be so determined to put himself first at any cost.

If he’s always like this then I’d be asking him to either see a GP to figure out why he is so badly impacted by EVERY illness or admit he’s laying it on thick because he can’t be arsed.

I don’t mind at all when my husband is unwell like this and genuinely just needs to stay in bed but that is because it’s very rare it happens, a handful of times in our whole relationship rare, and the same for me. A cold etc we just crack on!

It’s annoyed me today as I have been up since 2am, feeding baby then I also felt crap and was hoping I might get a few more hours sleep today. I don’t think it’s normal for someone to be SO ill every time they get a cold? So I can only presume he’s laying it on or can’t cope.

Men are pathetic.