It’s my husbands big birthday this year and I was thinking of booking a fancy family hotel for it. He had previously chatted to his close mates about going with them and their families (not as a bday thing) and they were keen but never pinned down dates. Do you think it would be weird / pressuring to message them separately and see if they fancied it that weekend too.. maybe as a surprise? Thing is that I def wouldn’t be able to pay for their rooms too so it’s just if they happen to fancy it. They have money from what I gather but even so it’s a lot with kids etc. I was thinking I could treat everyone to champagne/ a meal there but do you think they would expect me to pay for the whole weekend?