Who (if anyone) is being unreasonable here?

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I don't think I am but I'm also an oversensitive princess this week so who knows 😂plus mutual friend thinks I am

4 years ago I moved from London to another major popular European city a 2h flight away, of course there was the usual "we must come visit" from friends over the years that never materialised, that's fine, I left and people have lives and finances to think about!
But 3 particular friends multiple times kept saying how desperate they were to come, they missed me etc and can they stay with me because they really want to come, they couldn't due to space issues but twice I made arrangements with friends for them to kindly lend the friends their house whilst they were away, both times the friends canceled last minute because of money or work issues (which didn't cause problems with the house lending friends but they were irritated and definitely wouldn't be up for offering a 3rd time!).

Anyway, I'm moving back in March...friends have booked a summer trip (I couldn't go as I already had plans that week, the only week I couldn't do. out of the original 3 they were choosing from...) to, you've guessed it, that city. I said I would've loved to have come and shown them around but unfortunately I couldn't but have a blast, they asked if I could ask the friends to lend the house again and I said no, sorry but I can't and now everyones sulking at me.

Honestly I'm too old for this nonsense so I'm leaving the ball in their court and I'm done but am I possibly being a drama queen!?

YANBU and when you get back to the UK you need to find new friends. I’m sorry they have been so rubbish to you OP

Definitely not unreasonable. They had the chance to visit. Leave them to sulk.

How ridiculous of them.

Well you moved away and it all became too difficult for them. You are on the periphery of the group now so, yes, start again.

No that would annoy me too, and how rude to try and impose on your other friends! YANBU.

They were offered the house as they were visiting as your guest, this time they are not your guests so they are being incredibly cheeky

Did they know you wouldn’t be still living in the city when they planned/booked the visit?

Yep, I told them at the start of Dec and they booked it last week

Haha, they are ridiculous. And frankly, I'd avoid getting too friendly on a day-to-day basis with them when you return to london.

For context

1 there's a HUGE difference betwen asking a friend if YOUR friends can use their house while you are hosting them, and asking a friend if your friends can use their house any old time
2 they have let people down at short notice multiple times - twats.

Wow! I’m sorry op, these are not your friends. They are just people you know who possibly, years ago, may have been your friends, but that fizzled a long time ago. Sorry to be brutal but as others have said, you need to move on and find new friends.

Nah you are right. Let them sulk. It is a boundary.

They’re giving you a very clear message here. They ditched you repeatedly, afire only going when you're not there, and have chosen only time you can’t go. And then to get in a strop with you when you won’t arrange accommodation for them? They’re absolutely telling you they don’t want to spend time with you,

Yanbu. They are CFs of the highest order 😬

That’s such a weird choice on their part and YANBU!

You are absolutely NOT being unreasonable OP, as all previous posters have said, these people are not true friends, as if they were they WOULD have come to visit you while you were away, not waited until you came back, and then had the cheek to expect to you ask YOUR friends if they can make use of their home, when they've previously let them down. Leave them to sulk, get on with settling back into living in the UK, and make some new friends.

Yes, you’re being a drama queen. Completely and utterly unreasonable. Im not sure why you’d need to post to ask if you’re being unreasonable about something that is so blatantly not unreasonable. What do you think? 🤔

You’re not in the wrong.

The house was available when you were living in the city and were still friends with friend. You’re now back home, so the close friendship you had has ended.

Your uk friends are cheeky to assume they can stay in a friend-if-friends house.

Sums it up.