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Be honest: do you check your blind spot?

348 replies

Blueeberry · 25/01/2026 18:53

I check mine (by quickly looking over my shoulder) religiously anytime I’m changing lane, especially on the motorway. Was speaking with a family member today however who seemed to think that blind spots were some sort of urban myth and insisted that you can see everything by just looking in your mirrors…

When I kindly informed her that no, you can’t see everything in your mirrors she told me that my idea of checking over my shoulder is ridiculous and dangerous, there’s no way that she’d feel comfortable doing it whilst driving. AIBU to think WTF?!

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JanuaryJasmine · 25/01/2026 23:49

Helpmefindmysoul · 25/01/2026 21:41

No, all mirrors and cameras only now. Extra checks on school run though..

If you need to do 'extra chechs' on the school run then you're not driving safely the rest of the time.

does that guy on the motorbike only deserve your full responsibility at school run times?

SexyFrenchDepression · 25/01/2026 23:51

Blueeberry · 25/01/2026 18:57

I’m going to break it to you that yes, you do. You’d fail your driving test for not looking over your shoulder and checking your blind spot adequately - it was absolutely ingrained into DD by her (ex police, very experienced) instructor.

This is definitely different to what my DC were taught very recently. I questioned DS and he said they use wing/rear view mirrors.

Namechange568899542 · 25/01/2026 23:52

JanuaryJasmine · 25/01/2026 23:46

Yet.

it's perfectly safe, I'd argue if you can't do it. You shouldn't be driving.

I can only assume posters are getting confused and think the blind spot check involves rotating your head 180 degrees and looking behind you whilst driving at 70mph opposed to a quick glimpse out of the drivers side or passenger window. That’s the only reason I can think of as to why so many are finding it so unfathomable.

JaceLancs · 25/01/2026 23:53

All the time!
DP thinks I’m mad but I don’t care - would rather be over cautious

Timeforchai · 25/01/2026 23:53

Happydays321 · 25/01/2026 18:56

You don't need to look over your shoulder, you should know what's around you by constantly checking your rear view and wing mirrors not by looking over your shoulder.

I always check. Once during a concentration lapse I nearly forgot and narrowly avoided hitting an overtaking car that wasn’t visible on my mirror. It’s why it’s called a “blind spot” and my instructor who has an advanced driving qualification, insisted it’s an absolute necessity.

Those who insist the car does it for them, it’s only a matter of time before an electrical fault occurs, so not wise to rely on that method!

SexyFrenchDepression · 25/01/2026 23:55

HighStreetOtter · 25/01/2026 21:14

I want a car which beeps at me if someone is in my blind spot now.

I love this feature. Out of habit I still look though.

JanuaryJasmine · 25/01/2026 23:55

CaffeinatedMum · 25/01/2026 22:04

I don’t always check. I’m a very conscious mirror checker, I don’t drive on busy roads, and my car has blind spot detectors (which to be honest I hate). But if I’m driving on a busier road I will. To be honest I’m a wimp and wouldn’t overtake unless I was absolutely sure there wasn’t anything anywhere near me.

Cyclists 'motorbike riders use other roads too. It's not just about over taking.

your mirrors help, but you really do need to get into the habit of checking with your own eyes.

if you kill someine (very easy to do with a cyclist or motor bike) 'but I checked my mirrors will be cold comfort tk their family it you!!)

JanuaryJasmine · 26/01/2026 00:02

bozzabollix · 25/01/2026 22:26

Driving instructor here. Always check blind spot by looking over when moving away from the side of the road. However when lane changing on dual carriageway/motorway check to the right as well as mirrors, but don’t look over your shoulder, reason being you can lose your steering that way, which obviously would be catastrophic in that situation.

You should be mirror checking enough to have a good idea of what is around you anyway on a dual carriageway or motorway.

As for the ‘my driving instructor said this so it’s proof responses’ - instructors never stop rowing about how to do things properly, we are renowned for it!

I've been driving 42 years, no accidents, it's perfectly safe to visually check before changing lane if that's what you're taught.& practice.

you are part of the problem, teaching learners not to check. It's disgraceful.

JanuaryJasmine · 26/01/2026 00:03

winterbluess · 25/01/2026 21:57

No way?? I'm only just learning g now and mine says I need to look 🙈

Excellent. It's a shame not all instructors have that much common sense!!

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 26/01/2026 00:05

I signal, car will beep if something is in the lane I intend to move into. Far better than me looking for sure.

JanuaryJasmine · 26/01/2026 00:06

HighStreetOtter · 25/01/2026 22:29

That’s exactly what Dd was told.

Two wrongs don't make a right.

JanuaryJasmine · 26/01/2026 00:09

Namechange568899542 · 25/01/2026 23:43

It’s a quick glimpse before changing lanes or pulling away, not gawping out of the window whilst driving at speed waiting for something to happen. If you sat staring at your mirrors for more than a second by your logic the same thing would happen, but you don’t, quick glimpse and eyes back in front.

People go into the back of each other usually because they’re on their phone, staring at something else, were driving up someone’s arse or just didn’t brake enough.

Exactly.

JanuaryJasmine · 26/01/2026 00:11

Namechange568899542 · 25/01/2026 23:52

I can only assume posters are getting confused and think the blind spot check involves rotating your head 180 degrees and looking behind you whilst driving at 70mph opposed to a quick glimpse out of the drivers side or passenger window. That’s the only reason I can think of as to why so many are finding it so unfathomable.

Yes, I think you're right. Still scares me such people drive on our rusds & worse still some are teaching learner drivers 🙇🏻‍♀️🙇🏻‍♀️🙇🏻‍♀️

JugglingMyNuts · 26/01/2026 00:12

The people saying they check their mirrors so that is enough. It isn’t an either or situation. You should be doing both. I observe what is behind me in the mirrors but when you are checking all areas sometimes you miss something and need to double check. Recently I knew a motorbike was behind me for sometime but when I went to change lane I suddenly couldn’t see him. Was he left or right of me on a motorway and yes I spent time looking in both my blind spots. And when he did appear he obviously realised I was looking for him as he gratefully signalled a thank you as he passed because I guess lots of drivers would have just moved lanes.

Timeforchai · 26/01/2026 00:13

bozzabollix · 25/01/2026 22:26

Driving instructor here. Always check blind spot by looking over when moving away from the side of the road. However when lane changing on dual carriageway/motorway check to the right as well as mirrors, but don’t look over your shoulder, reason being you can lose your steering that way, which obviously would be catastrophic in that situation.

You should be mirror checking enough to have a good idea of what is around you anyway on a dual carriageway or motorway.

As for the ‘my driving instructor said this so it’s proof responses’ - instructors never stop rowing about how to do things properly, we are renowned for it!

Oh dear, are you sure you should still be teaching ?
It’s perfectly safe to quickly glance over your shoulder !

JugglingMyNuts · 26/01/2026 00:15

And agree with other posters. A quick glance in your blind spot is quick and doesn’t involve looking behind you for ages so isn’t dangerous.

Blueeberry · 26/01/2026 00:16

SexyFrenchDepression · 25/01/2026 23:51

This is definitely different to what my DC were taught very recently. I questioned DS and he said they use wing/rear view mirrors.

My own DD passed her driving test last year and had over the shoulder blind spot checks absolutely instilled into her with the importance of them explained. Her driving instructor is also a motorbike rider so I’d say that he’s experienced the consequences of poor blind spot awareness!

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Blueeberry · 26/01/2026 00:19

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 26/01/2026 00:05

I signal, car will beep if something is in the lane I intend to move into. Far better than me looking for sure.

I don’t understand what is so hard about a millisecond long glance over your shoulder. You shouldn’t be relying on technology alone, and if you need to then you shouldn’t be driving full stop!

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SexyFrenchDepression · 26/01/2026 00:21

Blueeberry · 26/01/2026 00:16

My own DD passed her driving test last year and had over the shoulder blind spot checks absolutely instilled into her with the importance of them explained. Her driving instructor is also a motorbike rider so I’d say that he’s experienced the consequences of poor blind spot awareness!

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Its crazy that it is taught so differently! Makes no sense to me. DS passed with no faults so he must have done whatever he needed to correctly.

Itiswhysofew · 26/01/2026 00:24

Yep, over my shoulder and everywhere else.

Blueeberry · 26/01/2026 00:26

SexyFrenchDepression · 26/01/2026 00:21

Its crazy that it is taught so differently! Makes no sense to me. DS passed with no faults so he must have done whatever he needed to correctly.

Same with DD. The test is different in NI though - there are some discrepancies in regulations between us and the rest of the UK. No blind spot checks = a fail here. I don’t know a single young person who hasn’t been taught to look over their shoulder.

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SexyFrenchDepression · 26/01/2026 00:29

Blueeberry · 26/01/2026 00:26

Same with DD. The test is different in NI though - there are some discrepancies in regulations between us and the rest of the UK. No blind spot checks = a fail here. I don’t know a single young person who hasn’t been taught to look over their shoulder.

I dont understand not being taught it TBH. My car beeps at me but I always glance right.

MoreEspressoLessDepresso · 26/01/2026 00:37

Yes, saved my life not long after I passed my test 8yrs ago. Like a PP, a sports car came flying out of nowhere and if I hadn't checked, I'd be dead. So I check every time, without fail.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 26/01/2026 01:14

Dd was told this as well. She was strictly told that looking over your shoulder is dangerous as you may drift out your lane. Ive been doing it for 30 years with no drifting..

I think this is a new driver thing and kinda true. I’ve only taught 2 new drivers but both forgot that their necks and head were independent of their hands and arms and upper torso.

After the first harrowing experience I made both stand in the kitchen holding full glasses of water while playing the ‘how many fingers am I holding up’ in their peripheral vision until they learned that their body parts did in fact move independently. 👀

TempestTost · 26/01/2026 01:19

I do, and where I live you would fail your driving test if you did not.

However, I have also lived in a place where if you did check it, you failed your driving test, they took the view that if your mirrors are adjusted you have no blind spot.