Is throwing keys at the door ok in an argument?

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DH and I arguing. He’s screaming saying “you do you”. I close the door to get away from him and he launched his keys st the door causing a hole,

I don't think throwing anything in an argument is OK, tbh. But neither is screaming at someone.

Does this sort of thing happen often?

None of that is okay - why is he screaming?

I'm absolutely sure you know it isn't.

You might've been better starting a thread to discuss what happened etc.

Screaming isn't okay. Closing the door on someone isn't okay. Why is the focus just on the keys? Do you often have arguments that include screaming, shutting doors and throwing things?

Maybe you both need to calm down. Have a cup of tea and a kitkat and then have a talk like grown ups do.

Need more context.

Obviously throwing things is not good, but his previous comment was "you do you". What were you arguing about for him to get so frustrated.

I feel we are missing something.

You slammed the door in his face to "get away from him"

Was that because you were worried about violence or as a temper tantrum type "win"?

It depends then if just him or both of you were BU

Slammed? I closed a door as our child was in the room and I didn’t want him coming in shouting. I wouldn’t slam a door as it would startle our child.

He hasn’t paid his share of bills in our account this month which means I am covering it again. I asked where it was and he started screaming. I told him to stop, walked away and he did this.

I read the thread you started yesterday. You need to leave this man.

Closing the door in someone's face is quite an aggressive move

But this guy sounds like an arse

You’ve just made up that OP slammed the door and after you’ve been called out, you’re now doubling down by saying ‘closing a door’ is an aggressive move?! And where did she say “in his face?”

so closing a door on someone who’s screaming at you is aggressive? in what way?

She shut the door on him

She said that

Closing the door on someone like that, in an argument, can be aggressive

Because you're shutting a door in their face

He shouldn’t be shouting at all ever. I’m also concerned the child was there. Throwing something at a door is also not acceptable.

Would your husband be ok if your child threw a toy at the door in a rage and caused a hole? What is his shouting and throwing teaching your child?

This sounds emotionally abusive OP, and could develop into physical abuse. I think you need to assess whether this behaviour is a one-off or if this is part of a worrisome
pattern.

Ask yourself this. Does your home feel safe and supportive?

Everyone has arguments, and yes, people raise voices, hump about etc. But shouting and throwing isn’t normal.

No, it's not. It's an understandable way to put distance between you and someone screaming in your face.
Why hasn't he paid his half of the bills?

So he's not paid his share of the bills two months running and you're not allowed to ask why.

Sounds dreadful OP.
He's no longer contributing to the home and living off you?
Have you family?
Is it morgage or rental?
How many children?

I've just read your other thread. Leave him. Find a place to live for yourself and leave him.
He's a pathetic, angry manchild. He's being very abusive to you.

Throwing things isn’t acceptable. Shouting also isn’t acceptable especially when children are present.

Me and DH may have disagreements and bad days but we never raise our voices, use bad language or throw things.

You have to be able to communicate the issue calmly like an adult. The second you go any further there’s no point even discussing.

What an awful environment to raise a child in.