My friend had a baby and was busy with family life. I would message her and she would ignore me, or we arranged to meet up and she just didn’t show. From my perspective, there were no hard feelings. I attributed her being busy with family life and nothing personal. But I spent less energy on the friendship as it became one-sided.
The other week she kept sending me cryptic messages such as “???” and “lol”. I messaged to figure out what’s going on, and she said she is disappointed because it was her child’s birthday and I didn’t say happy birthday. It totally slipped my mind because we only spoke about twice in the entire year! She calls me his “aunt” which I find slightly overfamiliar given how little we speak.
I then said happy birthday. But she said she’s hurt because I don’t invite her to catch up anymore, and that she found out I bought a new house through social media and feels I should have told her directly.
Aibu? I don’t understand how often am I supposed to keep a friendship going when someone disengages. When I was in the process of achieving the house finances, getting promoted etc, she didn’t want to know. So aibu to find her behaviour childish? I feel she thinks she should get leeway because of mum life, whereas I don’t like to impose on people so I’m not the sort of person to keep messaging if I sense it’s unwanted.