To feel annoyed when I have flu

[Booksandsea]

My partner works long hours - that’s fine. But he’s off weekends. I’ve been down with flu since weds and still doing all childcare / housework / cooking. Today he’s off. Baby was awake from 3am to 5am (he was on sofa). She slept till 9 and then he went to gym for 2 hours and came home, showered, had breakfast, had chill. Then finally took her out about 130pm and brought her back 4pm. I I feeL horrendous and hurts to move anything. I’m dreading tonight, tomorrow and the next day. I feel so bad for our daughter as it’s a monumental effort for me just to play atm; this flu is kicking my arse

Have you asked him to do overnight tonight?

Fair play to you doing anything having flu. Remind your partner it is a literal killer and you need to rest.

I’ve asked him. He says he’s too tired.

But he actually can’t settle her and gets so angry when she cries - I am on edge listening anyway. Just wish he could take her in morning instead of going gym - give her breakfast and watch cartoon.

I had to crawl to toilet this morning as couldn’t stand. Bottom shuffled downstairs with baby on lap.

Flu is just horrible and I feel for you. I’m a single mum and my best advice is that kids come to no harm if they watch TV and live off sandwiches for a few days.

That said, you have a partner who could and should be stepping up.
What do you mean he gets angry when she cries?

You have more serious issues in your relationship than just this weekend. Do you have anybody who can help you get through this and then assess whether you need to take drastic steps. Up to and including splitting up?

Not noticing you need help or not stepping up unasked is one thing. Refusing is another thing entirely.