To have sent DD12 alone in an Uber

[Nathalie1975]

DD12 attends a music class every Saturday morning. She normally goes there by bus. I don't drive.
This morning she came back in after 5 minutes saying the bus didn't stop for her. So I called her an Uber. I went out with her to speak to the driver and told her to let me know as soon as she got there. She also has a tracker on her phone so I could follow her all the way. I couldn't go in the Uber with her because I was expecting a supermarket delivery any minute.

Anyway, all went well, she got there well in time for her class. But now I am wondering if it was irresponsible of me to send her o her own in a car with a stranger. So curious to know what other parents think.

YABU it was irresponsible
YANBU it was fine

For goodness sake of course it's ok.

It's ridiculous how parents tie themselves into knots despite being able to track their child's every movement.

No wonder so many kids suffer from anxiety.

Seems fine to me. I believe in kids learning through doing. At 12 mine could happily get on a train and work out what to do if stuff went wrong.

ubers are tracked and traceable and you were also tracking her. I do this with my sons. I have to admit id maybe be a bit more nervous with a girl, for obvious reasons, so I would have made it clear to the driver that I was watching their progress and id have maybe phoned her in the car.

Set her up with Uber for teens on a family account. It has extra levels of security and tracking.

You’re actually doing her a favour by teaching her how to get on in the real world. So many kids get taken everywhere by car and get dropped off here there and everywhere then they grow up and have no idea how to be an adult, It’s a life skill that they need to learn early on.

Whilst there is a risk, i do it all the time. Uber are safe and tracked and if it doesn’t stop at the original destination you have to approve the journeys end and say that you wanted it to be at the new location.

there is a risk with taxi drivers. Friend of a friend works for the police and I have been told a lot of taxi drivers assault and abuse girls on the way home. A lot is probably subjective. Just make sure they know there is a man at her drop off location - dad or brother at this age. Boyfriend or husband as she gets older.

Thank you for the replies. I actually thought the poll would go the other way (because it's mumsnet) so pleasantly surprised.
I will check Uber teens @estrogone thank you for the tip.

I personally would not send my child alone in an uber but that’s because I had a very bad and scary experience in a taxi once when I was 17. Just typing about it makes me feel jittery.