My sister is an alcoholic with all of the things that go with addictions, she is has been drunk at work, is made her selfish, unkind and uncaring. She has a niece that she crows on about my daughter who she's not seen in four years. She stayed at Christmas with our parents and just generally got drunk and embarrassed herself after some weeks of sobriety. She lies and days she is getting help when she wasn't. I met up with her after new year with my daughter she swore blind she wouldn't drink for the time, but she arrived pissed it was awful. Stroking my daughters hand talking to her like a baby , she is nine ffs. We went home. She has thousands of pounds from our parents because she can't budget despite being on anmuch higher wage than me. When our mum received life limiting diagnosis last year she put it all over Facebook. I've stepped back as I'd rather say nothing than say something I'd later regret but told her she can't be like that around children.
We received the terrible news this evening that she is coming back to live in the UK after 5 years in Ireland. Life has been happy without her here but now she returns. Its my Aunties 60th birthday in March and she is back before that date. We are having a little gathering at my house and she has announced she's coming, all the family will be there. She has decreed that nobody should be drinking alcohol but I'd don't think that is realistic. Its a big birthday. I don't want her to be around kids drunk. Would it be unreasonable to refuse her any alcohol but to allow other people to drink, I can't risk a repeat performance of our last meeting. I also know my very lovely mum and dad would be heartbroken if she wasn't invited. Any thoughts welcome. This will also help me to set the scene for other family get togethers.