To get annoyed at DP “joking” about dry January?

[Nazs]

I am doing dry January, and have kept my promise to myself. This includes going to work events and friend’s parties.

DP is teetotal and is also not very social, more generally.

I work in a very stressful and boozy line of work. It’s just part of the culture. My friends are all quite boozy people, not in a 10 pints at spoons way, but more a can drink a bottle of wine to themselves at dinner on a Friday or have a G&T after work to destress.

Any rate, I mentioned to DP that I was feeling stressed after a gruelling week at work and wanted a glass of wine to relax. I had no intention to but was voicing it for the sake of it.

DP keeps joking that maybe I should go teetotal for good, or if it feels like I need a glass of wine to relax then maybe I need another month off the booze. He also jokes how I shouldn’t be allowed a glass of wine unless I run his Sunday morning “fun 10k”. I hate running but doing it sometimes.

AIBU to be annoyed? It’s not funny. Even if it booze is generally bad, it’s my choice!

Ugh, judgy teetotaller. My mum was like this. If I had more than a single vodka and coke in her presence she would assume I was drunk (unlike the night of red wine when I was absolutely smashed, that probably changed her perspective a little bit).

Anyway, this is merely a sympathetic nod to how you feel, no advice really.

Oh, and a well done for sticking to your goal.

I was in a shop today, waiting to be served. The man in front was chatting to the shop keeper about how well he was doing with dry January. He said he really fancied a beer but had stayed off it. He then said he was still drinking his normal vodka and wine. I couldn’t help sniggering, I turned it into a cough.😂

Youre doing great! 💐How annoying he is... ignore, ignore, ignore. Can you treat yourself every Friday to something nice?

All dry January’s should be like this 😂 the uptake would be huge!

So when he makes these comments (they are certainly not jokes) just give him a cold look and clam up. He’ll then probably say ‘I was only joking’. You then say it’s only a joke if it’s funny and you are tired of him being so judgmental, and if there’s anything that’s going to make you crack it’s his comments, and does he want you to do that? Say that you would appreciate a bit of support as any good partner would do.

I never understood why on earth people pick January to be dry... rotten month for it.

I believe in a 'to each their own' approach to life and especially drinking hate judgy teetotalers as much as they hate judgy drinkers. Next time he starts in just tell him to button it and he's the reason you drink so he should think long and hard about if he wants you to give it up as you'd have to make 'other choices'. *

*No I'm not saying LTB this is an example of something I'd say to my DH to indicate that the subject is off the table. We say things like this even about stupid things. It's not a threat and we have a great relationship with good communication.

He is telling you your drinking is an issue and you don’t like the truth.

I hate to say it but - are you sure he’s joking? 🫣

Well, you know he's not sympathetic to your wish to drink alcohol, so maybe just don't expect sympathy from him on this point. Find someone else to complain to. It can be frustrating to listen to someone's problems when the problem is entirely self-imposed. No-one is forcing the dry January, after all. Or maybe, as others have suggested, he does think you should cut back on alcohol permanently.