AIBU to want to throw up every time I come across the word "chestfeeding"?

[surrealpotato]

Whenever I look for breastfeeding advice online, inevitably half the websites in the results, especially the top few, will use the term "chest feeding", sometimes avoiding he phrase "breastfeeding mother", or even the word "mother" completely. I find this language so dehumanising and gaslighting, but it seems that even some of the more otherwise respectable organisations, like La Leche League, are now adopting this language. I know I'm not being unreasonable. But AIBU?

This is another major factor here. There is no possible feedback from infant to mother. Male breasts do not have that capability.

It really is one of those things where male people lack the understanding about the mother and infant interaction. Many male people enter these threads and declare that their male breasts are ‘exactly’ the same as female breasts. Yet they have no fucking idea about how the mother’s body makes adjustments to the milk for the infant.

Why is it not relevant that intersex people exist?

Because just because something exists doesn't mean it's relevant to every discussion.

I dont think you must have much on in your life if you can get this riled up about the wording used in a leaflet.

That's a very lazy attack on a point of disagreement, to assume the other person just likes getting riled up.

You might not think this kind of language is a big deal, but I do, as do many others. Like you, my first reaction to this sort of thing would once have been that, of course, inclusion is good. Respectfully, I now consider that a rather naive and simplistic interpretation of what is going on. I now take a much more cynical approach.

Fundamentally, the denial of reality, truth, and biology has serious consequences to people's lives and to society in general. This is even more true in a medical setting. The deliberate manipulation of language to try to enforce a particular ideology in our public health institutions is not a trivial matter.

YANBU. Its pathetic. Do we eat chest of chicken? Or walk two achest? Or swim the Chest Stroke?

This in a nutshell.
It melts my brain.

If you have a functioning female reproductive system, you don’t have a disorder of sexual development, ie you aren’t intersex. It’s pretty much definitional. Has this person given birth? Yes. Definitely female.

Correct. I lost a dear male friend 20 years ago. He had breast cancer which subsequently spread to his bones.

The medics called it breast cancer because that's what it was.

Here is a new one that I have not come across before.

https://www.nct.org.uk/sites/default/files/2026-01/NCT-Parent-Experience-Report.pdf

Page 3.

*”Around one in five women parents told us that:

Women parents??

Note other phrases on that page:

Nearly six in ten women and people who were pregnant at the time of the survey said they were worried about...

Nearly four in ten women and people who have given birth said...

A further one in five women and people who had given birth:

But I’m confused. We’re the women amongst the people who were pregnant etc or are they just random women? Are they suggesting women are not people?

Where inclusive merges into confusing

Yep “chest feeding” is grim.

Pretty sure I got a lactational abscess in my breast, not my chest 😂

How does that work for anyone?!?! Transmen are not going to appreciate that.