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To have mentioned moving out the area?

29 replies

StuckInIt · 20/01/2026 09:29

Sorry in advance if this is long or confusing, I have a lot going on at the moment and my mind is a jumbled mess.

My home was broken into last week whilst myself and my young DC was in bed. A lot of things were taken and currently remains unsafe to stay in. My boyfriend (of just under a year) hasn't been that supportive in the aftermath but has offered me to a place to stay for a night or 2.

Yesterday we were vaguely discussing the fact that I am really anxious about going back home when the damage is repaired and the house is secured as I really dont feel safe there anymore. I am a lone parent with minimal support and looks like it was a targeted break in. Ultimately i said i would probably look at moving and may consider looking at another town closer to where I work. This set my boyfriend off on a tangent, he instantly started calling me everything under the sun and threw me out. He has this morning sent me a message saying we are done and blocked me.

I really cant deal with this on top of everything now, was i in the wrong here?
I am trying to keep things as normal as possible for my DD outwardly but inside I am already struggling enough as it is without this.

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FancyBiscuitsLevel · 20/01/2026 13:53

So he was convinced for some reason you weren’t in the house when you were being burgled- even though you called the police? My suspicion would be he knew who burgled you and they told him the house was empty.

This man is not for you. its best it’s over.

Definitely move - this landlord sounds crap. Don’t bother letting ex know.

OrigamiOwls · 20/01/2026 14:05

In relation to your ex - the trash has taken itself out here.

If you rent and don't feel safe then looking to move sounds sensible.

Jeschara · 20/01/2026 14:49

You really have dodged a bullet. The fact he is also checking your phone is a major red flag.
Even if he begs to come back say no, he will only become more controlling and worse.

Worryabouteverything · 20/01/2026 14:51

Just thank god he's not in your life anymore.

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