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Im no fan of Starmer but …

354 replies

BettyWhittaker · 20/01/2026 08:11

I am very anti - Labour government, have never voted Labour in my life and never would and I hope an early GE is called …

BUT - AIBU to think he really couldn’t have handled Trump any better than he had? Christ the man is completely unhinged, his behaviour is getting worse and worse - AIBU to think Starmer really couldn’t have done more to handle this?

I thought his statement yesterday was pretty good. Let’s just hope the mad man gets taken out of office before he kicks off another bloody war

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Playingvideogames · 20/01/2026 09:22

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 20/01/2026 09:20

It's hard to tell the difference between reality and satire these days. I thought yesterday's text to the Norwegian PM was a spoof at first.

So did I.

It didn’t even occur to me national leaders actually text each other.

Happyjoe · 20/01/2026 09:22

rememberingthem · 20/01/2026 09:20

Trump has no respect for weakness and he views Europe/ Nato/ Starmer, Labour as weak and he would be correct imo. However I don’t agree with the way he does things.

No, most European countries have no respect for bullies either, esp by a mad man.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 20/01/2026 09:23

Playingvideogames · 20/01/2026 09:22

So did I.

It didn’t even occur to me national leaders actually text each other.

No, I was quite taken aback by that.

merrymonsters · 20/01/2026 09:23

senua · 20/01/2026 08:32

I believe that his dear mate's latest tweet has called Starmer' s actions "GREAT STUPIDITY".
With friends like that ...

Trump was talking about the Chaos Island deal, which is indeed deeply stupid.

BIossomtoes · 20/01/2026 09:24

MayaPinion · 20/01/2026 09:08

Starner, regardless of whether you approve of him or not, is a very, very, clever man. He’s a strategist who plays the long game and he’s playing this the right way. We can’t afford to wave a red flag at Trump. He’s clearly a very ill man and completely unhinged to the extent he’s lost his grip on reality. He’s behaving more like a petulant Roman emperor than a strong global leader. I’m astonished his own party haven’t don’t more to wind him in, but then I’m not sure how they could.

They need a scapegoat.

GeneralPeter · 20/01/2026 09:24

Agree. It’s fascinating, especially as he’s an international law type but plays it as realpolitik.

I’d love to know if there is hard-line threatening behind the scenes (switch off intelligence cooperation, etc.) or not.

Trump’s anglophilia helps too.

randomchap · 20/01/2026 09:27

merrymonsters · 20/01/2026 09:23

Trump was talking about the Chaos Island deal, which is indeed deeply stupid.

But Trump said it was brilliant less than a year ago? He's a strange bullshitting little man

EasternStandard · 20/01/2026 09:27

merrymonsters · 20/01/2026 09:23

Trump was talking about the Chaos Island deal, which is indeed deeply stupid.

Yep

hattie43 · 20/01/2026 09:28

I think Trump is probably the hardest president any pm has had to contend with . As said the man is becoming more and more unhinged . They have tried being sycophantic and it’s not worked and Trump values strength so I’m thinking the walking of the tight rope tactic isn’t working so now just go in and tell it how it is , assertive .

BettyWhittaker · 20/01/2026 09:28

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 20/01/2026 09:20

It's hard to tell the difference between reality and satire these days. I thought yesterday's text to the Norwegian PM was a spoof at first.

Yes so did I! I laughed when I read it thinking it was a joke and then saw on Sky News that the letter had actually been received by a rather bemused Norwegian PM. I couldn’t believe it! Is nobody proof reading the letters etc that he sends out?

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BitOutOfPractice · 20/01/2026 09:28

Trump is completely unmanageable I think. I’d much rather Starmer try than Johnson. Imagine that if you dare!

Playingvideogames · 20/01/2026 09:28

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 20/01/2026 09:16

For all his faults, I also think Starmer is steering as good a course through this as he possibly can. Of course, we'd all love him to have his Love Actually moment and tell Trump to fuck off, but we also know that he can't do that because the UK's national interests are so inextricably linked with the US - and that is the fault of successive governments and not a situation of Starmer's own making.

It was good to see Badenoch showing some support and solidarity over the weekend. We need a united front on this and no political point scoring.

Honestly, though, I think Starmer is stuck in an impossible position here, and no matter what he does, the outcome isn't going to be good. Trump seems totally serious about Greenland and there is nothing that the UK, or the EU, can realistically do to stop him.

I think the priority for our leaders going forward has to be to figure out how on earth we can start to disentangle ourselves from the US and build up our own defensive capabilities. But I don't even know if that's possible...

Every word of this is correct, but to answer your final query, yes it’s possible - but we have to accept we can’t be a country of individualism any more. Our lack of collective direction has somewhat lead to this fiasco, and we need to accept we cannot spend millions of pounds on just 1 person any more (life and death illness aside). We’ve become a very expensive support system for people with ‘needs’ which is slowly bankrupting us while the world around us is turning into shark infested waters.

PacificState · 20/01/2026 09:29

Alexandra2001 · 20/01/2026 09:17

No it cannot, the UK and Europe still has significant capabilities beyond the US hardware.

Plus the world economy, inc the US's would fall off a cliff if the US acted in this way, everything we know would stop.

It wont happen, which is why Trumps opening gambit was trade tariffs, not military.
Those around him, know the US public do support any of this and their Congress wouldn't fund it either.

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I hope you’re right, but that all relies in a large group of people in the US military/industrial/political/financial complex working together to properly stand up to the administration. And they’ve shown no signs of doing that so far. Each component only raises a squeak when its own interests are directly threatened (like Jay Powell last week); none of them yet seems to have realised that a systemic threat like Trump is a clear and present threat to everything they hold dear, and that the essential crisis arrived some time ago.

I very much hope Congress finds its balls over military funding, if it comes to that, but I wouldn’t bet my house on it. These people (Republicans in Congress) have been so utterly, dismally amoral, cowardly and supine so far. Those who aren’t outright lunatics of course.

hobbledyhoy · 20/01/2026 09:30

Yes I think he’s shown real skill and competence in handling a very strange set of circumstances. I feel reassured that he’s steady and consistent despite those around him. If the Tories were in we would’ve been in big trouble.

notimagain · 20/01/2026 09:33

PacificState · 20/01/2026 09:09

it needs to be made clear that the US can't simply take parts of Europe that it fancies having.

The thing is though - it can. The US can do absolutely anything it wants in Western Europe. We are in a military alliance with them. They have the codes to the UK’s nuclear weapons; they control a lot of our military hardware and software. They can put troops here in days. There is absolutely fuck all we can do about it. Send the UK Army (all 200,000 of them) to Washington, will we? I don’t think so.

We’re in a vice and there are no good options.

I think you're exaggerating slightly..

The US can long term screw over the UK independent deterrent since they provide the missile bodies (not the warheads) on a loan basis. Codes and Permissive Action Links (PALs) are more relevant to US weapons held in Europe, not what the UK has.

They don"t control a lot of our hardware and software. The US provided a lot of support for the F-35 but there's a lot of UK/European built hardware in use.

Oh, and I think the UK Army would struggle to deploy 200,000.

I would agree we're in a bit of a vice.

randomchap · 20/01/2026 09:33

EasternStandard · 20/01/2026 09:27

Yep

But Trump said it was brilliant less than a year ago? Trump is an unreliable bell end. His opinions change chaotically.

Happyjoe · 20/01/2026 09:34

BettyWhittaker · 20/01/2026 09:28

Yes so did I! I laughed when I read it thinking it was a joke and then saw on Sky News that the letter had actually been received by a rather bemused Norwegian PM. I couldn’t believe it! Is nobody proof reading the letters etc that he sends out?

I don't suppose it matters. He'd just use his social media platforms. Even twitter banned him once upon a time - back in the day when twitter had standards.

Bring back Obama. He is a smart smart man.

PacificState · 20/01/2026 09:35

BettyWhittaker · 20/01/2026 09:28

Yes so did I! I laughed when I read it thinking it was a joke and then saw on Sky News that the letter had actually been received by a rather bemused Norwegian PM. I couldn’t believe it! Is nobody proof reading the letters etc that he sends out?

It’s deliberate. Not on Trump’s part, he’s clearly cognitively impaired and was never very clever to start with. But within the administration, sending ungrammatical, factually incorrect, tonally mad diplomatic comms is a flex, a power play. They are basically showing that they could send a smear of shit on a piece of paper and leaders from other countries would have to respond with pained diplomacy and forced smiles.

Happyjoe · 20/01/2026 09:36

notimagain · 20/01/2026 09:33

I think you're exaggerating slightly..

The US can long term screw over the UK independent deterrent since they provide the missile bodies (not the warheads) on a loan basis. Codes and Permissive Action Links (PALs) are more relevant to US weapons held in Europe, not what the UK has.

They don"t control a lot of our hardware and software. The US provided a lot of support for the F-35 but there's a lot of UK/European built hardware in use.

Oh, and I think the UK Army would struggle to deploy 200,000.

I would agree we're in a bit of a vice.

Would Europe not work together though if the worst happened? Not just the British army.

zacsGranny · 20/01/2026 09:37

BitOutOfPractice · 20/01/2026 09:28

Trump is completely unmanageable I think. I’d much rather Starmer try than Johnson. Imagine that if you dare!

Imagine how Maggie Thatcher would have dealt with him!!!!

BIossomtoes · 20/01/2026 09:37

Happyjoe · 20/01/2026 09:36

Would Europe not work together though if the worst happened? Not just the British army.

The irony - not wanting to participate in an EU army was one of the arguments for Brexit.

PacificState · 20/01/2026 09:37

notimagain · 20/01/2026 09:33

I think you're exaggerating slightly..

The US can long term screw over the UK independent deterrent since they provide the missile bodies (not the warheads) on a loan basis. Codes and Permissive Action Links (PALs) are more relevant to US weapons held in Europe, not what the UK has.

They don"t control a lot of our hardware and software. The US provided a lot of support for the F-35 but there's a lot of UK/European built hardware in use.

Oh, and I think the UK Army would struggle to deploy 200,000.

I would agree we're in a bit of a vice.

Thank you for this. Not at all a military expert, as you can tell! But do you think there’s a serious prospect that Western Europe could mount an effective defence to the US military, if it chose aggression?

SpringBulbsPop · 20/01/2026 09:38

Can you imagine Nigel having to respond?

Sartre · 20/01/2026 09:38

It’s scary because the only way to manage Trump is kiss his ego and do everything and anything he asks. If you call him out in any way, he lumps a tariff on you. This is how fascism is formed, it’s how Hitler got into power and was able to ransack Europe. Everyone thought he was a joke at first and most were afraid to call him out too.

Sartre · 20/01/2026 09:39

zacsGranny · 20/01/2026 09:37

Imagine how Maggie Thatcher would have dealt with him!!!!

Same way she ‘managed’ Reagan I expect. Licked his arse.