Abandoned walk.

[MeDadMeDad]

Just got back from a walk with my DP. We have been walking most evenings just after dark for a month or more.
At the bus stop a group of teenagers said hiya in a tone to suggest in have disabilities. I didn't feel safe. So turned left in to another street back home.
Yesterday a different group of teenagers were shouting abuse at 2 men at the bus stop, smashing glass and kicking bins over.
My Dd had a incident not long ago.
We do live in a rough part of the city.
Was I being unreasonable to abandoned walk DP says I was.

How did they say hiya in a tone that suggested you had disabilities?

I can imagine a group of teenagers saying something in an obnoxious or jeering type of tone because teenagers are often obnoxious and think they’re funnier than they are especially when in a group but not sure why or how that would translate to you assuming they thought you had disabilities.

It sounds like you may be hyper-aware or hyper- cautious due to your DDs previous incident and your perception of the environment.

They thought you had disabilities or they did?

I'm confused by that

If all they did was say "hiya" then it does seem an overreaction

I think I know what you mean in perhaps you thought they were mimicking people who had disabilities in a smart arse way?

@Mullaghanish yes that's right.

@MeDadMeDad i would have just continued walking. You weren't alone. And teenagers in groups can be harmless idiots. I know I was.

I’d have gone home too, I’m useless when I feel threatened.. can you join the local ramblers and go in the daytime?

@Mullaghanish I've never thought of group walking. That is a good idea. I will look into doing that me & DP. Thank you x

I’d have gone home too, I can imagine exactly what you mean. I’m surprised some people are struggling.

You know if you feel unsafe, without other people making a judgement on a situation without being there. You responded appropriately to how you felt

I can't say whether you were unreasonable as I wasn't there. But teens can definitely be intimidating, and are not always harmless - teenagers stabbing each other, teenagers murdering adults (the guy stoned on the beach in Kent recently, Bhim Kohli kicked to death in a park in Leicstershire...). Too many of them have no boundaries.

Agree @LeafyMcLeafFace and @SwirlyGates

I know exactly what you mean about the tone. There’s some teens round here that have done the same and I don’t blame you for turning back. The area I live in is rough, and there’s enough local stabbings and assaults carried out by teenage lads to know it’s not worth the risk.

I think sometimes it depends on the area you live in, I’ve seen a thread where posters hadn’t ever seen balaclava wearing yobs on pavements with the electric bikes, it’s several times a day I see them here. A group teenagers taking the piss out of people like round here could easily escalate so I would turn back too. The harmless idiot lads aren’t wandering street at night either as they get targeted by the yobs too.

Do you mean you walked off and left your husband?

You can't be driven off your local streets. I would have kept walking, even if feeling uncomfortable.

YANBU to remove yourself from any situation where you feel unsafe.

Regardless if others agree or understand.

@DameOfThrones no DP come back home with me. He wasn't happy as wanted to do the usual walk. We ended up missing 30 minutes of our walk.
Agree @ChronicConfusion xx

I was at work and needed to throw a load of stuff in the communal bins. Secluded area with 2 dodgy characters passing by... 1 known druggie but fixes resident cars for cheap... And his db... Both glugging bottles of pop.
1 let out a huge burp. Then said pardon!!
Not all apparent wrong uns are bad...
Yabu op.

You felt vulnerable and removing yourself from that was the sensible thing to do.

Couldn’t you have just gone another way?

You knew them. Sounds they were not smashing things up and mocking you either and just passed you by.

Of course not everyone who looks dodgy is dodgy. Just like not everyone who looks “good” is actually good. Im often called gullible and naive by my in laws for being trusting but being in a rough area has taught me to put my guard up a bit and especially over the last 5 years or so, where violence on the street is practically a daily occurrence now, it isn’t so easy to tell yourself that the group of teenagers mocking you or smashing stuff up are just harmless, because they’re often not.