Peed off with bestie

[OneGreyBiscuit]

Just had a ding dong on WhatsApp with my best mate of 40 years. She lives opposite my toxic mother who alienates everyone. DMS peed off one neighbour over her delivery of water so she's asked bestie if she would get her some to which she said no. So besties messaged me saying I'll have to sort it. I live a 40 mile round trip away, she never pays me for it and I'm not going to do it because quite frankly I can't stand her. What's riled me is that bestie can never leave her out of a conversation even though I don't want to hear about her and loves to wind me up about her, usually I'll bite my tongue but I've pulled her up on it. Obviously she didn't like it and for good measure I threw in that I wasn't happy about her calling my 14 DD a fg kid or the fact her DH goes out of his way every time I see him to say how old I look including calling me an old hag and old boot. But she's upset with me about that one. Thoughts please?

Well she sounds horrible and I don't think you are friends at all really.

Your friend and her husband sound like awful, awful people. Why do you want anything to do with them?

I did put in one message are you two really my friends and it's sad that I have to question that, to which she replied think you've answered your own question, which I don't know what to make of?

I think your so called friends sound just as nasty as your mum. Cut them off you'll be a lot happier

What's an fg kid?

I found the OP hard to follow.

How are you all, FGS?!

What's an FG kid?
She isn't your friend. I'd block her number and leave it at that.

I don't see why you're in contact with her at all.

She said I'm not being dictated to by a fucking kid, sorry for language, did put asterisks in originally

She’s literally saying no she’s not your friend…

I don’t really understand what your “ friend “ achually did ??? What’s a “fg kid”

why are you calling someone a friend who insults your child and who has a husband who insults you ? And who winds you up about your mum ? Bizarre

I don’t understand what your dilemma is - they are nasty awful people

it’s all very odd

You all sound very immature tbh, bestie shudder

That's fine, I'm genuinely not upset by bad language.

I agree with others that it sounds like this couple are not people you need to stay in contact with.

This has really upset me as I've known her over 40 years. Both she and her husband were great helps to me when I moved and left my ex. But even a teeny bit of me thinks they helped because of their dislike of him. I don't know what to do tbh🤷

I’d block them and not give them a second thought.

My maxim is usually "if you don't know what to do, do nothing". Just wait for the answer to reveal itself.

In this case "doing nothing" would mean not making any contact with them, but not actually making any decision as to the future. Let it fizzle out.

I've known plenty of people for 40 years or more, but if they're assholes time counts for nothing.

Block ignore , leave well alone

If they've treated you like that for nigh on 40 years, do you want another 40 years of the future with them treating you like that?

She means no they’re not.