Manager at work endless bragging

[M8oo9k]

On the whole my line manager at work is nice and has a good relationship with the team but her endless bragging about money (rich husband by the sound of things) is starting to grate on the rest of us in the team.
At any given time during the year war she has 2 or 3 foreign holidays booked and is always going on about upgrading seats at thousands of pounds extra. Also goes on about expensive shopping sprees whilst at these destinations.
We're tired of it, the rest of us in the team are living month to month with no holidays or will debts.

I worked in a kitchen and had assistant manager. She was tiny bit more earning than the NMW, was 30, lived with her parents, could not afford a mortgage but everytime there was something like that to brag about and she did - apparently her boyfriend earned 27 grand. The way she said: grand makes me laugh to this day. It was not 270 grant but ok

This sounds grating. Even if you weren't on the bones of your arse it's so boring listening to someone's boasting.

Can everyone in your team all agree to butt into her boast with a stock phrase like "that's great Jan. Now remind me where we're at with those remittances?"

We have a supervisor like your manager @M8oo9k. I think i could bare it if she didn't look so bloody smug and superior too. Of course she married a man with a very good job and makes sure we know it.

We had one of these at my last job. Endless bragging, boasting and oneupmanship. Most of it was in her head. Deeply unhappy woman who tried to validate herself by talking non stop about money she didn’t have. Very jealous of others too. Draining

Say something, perhaps remind her of the number of people who are homeless. Anyone with a single thread of conversation is boring.

Just ignore the boasting. She sounds deeply boring tbh

Ask if her rich husband has any rich friends for the rest of you, as you’re all poor.

Making the difference between her and the rest of you known might shut her up!

"thats nice Jan" and move on... dont change the term, dont mix it up, just repeat every time and turn around and get on with stirring your tea

repeat infinitum - the less you engage, the more boring your reply, the better. Have your face be the epitome of disinterest.

Put a note in her drawer saying "Your boasting is embarrassing and rubs less well off people's noses in it."

We had a manager who did the same, swanned around in a flashy sports car whilst making people redundant. Someone stuck this exact note under his windscreen wiper and it shut him right up.

Agree. Say something every time. Silence makes her thinks you are all in awe. I would saw:

”Good for you!”

I would tell her to her face what she’s doing. I would make it just me and her and if she boasted Id quietly say “by the way you do realise that pisses people off because whilst you may have money not everyone does”. Some people can’t read the room. I bet it would stop her.

I think it depends on why she's doing it. I have a friend who used to talk about her housekeeper and gardener as if we all had those and as she had quite privileged friends and her wider family were very privileged, I genuinely don't think she realised that was unusual. So for her it was more in passing tone deaf comments than actual bragging. Same woman would move the earth to help a person so it's one of those things where I just roll my eyes or we have a wee gentle joke about it now and she takes it in good faith as its meant.

But if its bragging for braggings sake to make herself feel superior or worse, put others down, then someone needs to have a word as it's not good management when a lot of your team are doing all they can to get by. I don't know if there's someone she's close to who could do it nicely and it be well received or if there's another manager who could step in?

Alternatively you just need to let it wash over you.