To be upset that not a single member of my Dh's family has sent my son a card and my oldest friend hasn't either?

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My ILs have sent a card in case they couln't come later but my best friend from school is always late with cards/gifts.

Makes me feel

Don't take it to heart and don't let it ruin the day for you.

Miserable gits. How old is he?

I don't understand... if not a single member of your DHs family have sent a card, how have your ILs sent one...??

Anyway, it doesn't matter. I bet your DS won't notice.

I don't see why people expect their friends to remember their childrens' birthdays. Immediate family fair enough, but I'd never lose sleep over friends forgetting.

I have a total of 16 nephews and nieces to remember (both on my side and dh's side) ... I can't be expected to remember my friends' kids too.
I remember my best friend's daughter as she is my god daughter too but that's it.
DH's family never ever remember the kids' birthdays. I have got used to it and don't get bent out of shape. Don't get me wrong, I do sympathise but really, life's too short {{}}}

On the whole if a child has even one present I dont think hes going to be looking up and saying mid play "oh and did I get a card from XXXX" It will only be a problem for him if you make it one...but I can understand you being disappointed

I typed the title before I remembered my Ils had sent a card.

My oldest friend will send something and it will be late as always.

I know that DS2 won't care really (though he has just asked if he has anymore cards) but I care, especially when I spend a lot of time and money each year choosing nice cards and sending them to his numerous cousins and aunties and uncles. I have a premanent calendar on the wall so have all the birthdays written down.

I know it doesn't really matter in the great scheme of things but even so I am a bit upset. I won't let it spoil the day for my son though.

I think YAB a bit U. If they're like me it's not that they don't care, it's more that they don't get round to doing it on time.

You're good at birthdays. They're not. They're probably not going to improve.

I'm terrible at remembering birthdays other than my dad's, dh's and the dc's and TBH don't expect anyone else to remember our birthdays, either. And yes, it is because I don't really care about other people's birthdays. Doesn't mean I don't care about them as people, IYKWIM, but I think birthdays are events that are usually celebrated by the immediate family, and aren't really of any importance to all and sundry.

I could have posted this a week ago!!

..and the DH family won't improve.. mine haven't for the last 10 years!

YABU. I'm not very good at remebering birthdays so I'm quite often late in sending cards out. But I only send them to close family and don't buy cards for friends children.

Riven, that is so mean, she is your DD and their GDD, you would think they would send a card

It is a shame that cards have been forgotten, but as you say yourself you will still enjoy your DS's day. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

YANBU. Having just had ds first bday I know what it means to have people that you hold dear to your heart not appear to hold you dear to theirs. DH says not to sweat the small stuff but it does hurt. You could always go down the line of not remembering theirs next time but 2 wrongs dont make a right and all that. I just dealt with it as making a scene wouldnt make it any better. Good luck with what you choose to do

YABU with regard to your friend. Friends should not be expected to remember their friends childrens birthdays.