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To go to a funeral for someone I’ve never met?

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LemonBelly · 18/01/2026 08:54

My boyfriend of 2.5 years lost his uncle just before Christmas. He lives about 3 hours north so my partner doesn’t see him much, I was meant to meet him for the first time at my boyfriends mums 50th next month which obviously sadly won’t happen now.

His funeral is coming up and my boyfriend asked me if I wanted to go with him. His mum and sisters will be there but it’s a 2 hour drive each way that he will do on his own. Nobody ever wants to go to a funeral but I want to be there for him, but I feel weird that I’m going to a funeral for someone I’ve never met. Is that weird? Will other family members think it’s weird? I’ve met his immediately family and his auntie and her family multiple times so I’m not a stranger to them

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AffableBill · 18/01/2026 09:36

It's very normal to go to support a friend or partner. It's not really relevant whether you have met the person.

MrsAvocet · 18/01/2026 09:37

I'd go if your boyfriend wants you there. As others have said, funerals are for the living and if he wants your support I would go. I have been to the funerals of people I didn't really know - a friend's Dad and a work colleague's wife in recent years - not because of any closeness to the deceased but because I care about the bereaved.

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