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How does your OH act after a few drinks?

54 replies

YankeeDoodleBambi · 17/01/2026 20:30

Curious.

How do you know your DH is “drunk” ?

OP posts:
Sassylovesbooks · 17/01/2026 21:41

My husband becomes chatty....really chatty...falls asleep and then snores loudly!!!

Chestnutmarenutjob · 17/01/2026 21:42

YankeeDoodleBambi · 17/01/2026 20:37

DHs “drunk” depends on who he’s with. If he’s drunk at home he goes all quiet, moody and argumentative. If he’s drunk elsewhere he’s extremely annoying and embarrassing - forces his company on people, does really annoying things like stands there and announces that “he’s sorry for his behaviour” to everyone. It’s so embarrassing. One time he randomly started questioning how long these youngsters had been fans of this particular band and started almost arguining with them that they were not true fans like him. I cringed myself inside out.

That sounds really rubbish op.

my husband is just a larger version of himself when drunk. Funny, life and soul of the party, soppy then sleepy 😂

he laughs a lot at my rubbish jokes when he’s drunk and that’s how I know 😂

Glitchymn1 · 17/01/2026 21:42

Happened once, with my Lab - fell asleep in bed together 😂the dog was extremely put out! I’d bought the dog a ridiculous bed- was like a double mattress.

PollyBell · 17/01/2026 21:43

No idea he has 2 drinks on a big night out

climbintheback · 17/01/2026 21:45

Falls asleep

IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour · 17/01/2026 21:52

He just falls asleep

Loub1987 · 17/01/2026 21:55

Doesn’t happen much as we have two small kids. However, I’d say sleepy or silly.

OSTMusTisNT · 17/01/2026 21:55

He's fine unless he drinks whisky, then he's a prick - thankfully he doesn't drink whisky anymore.

SexyFrenchDepression · 17/01/2026 22:09

YankeeDoodleBambi · 17/01/2026 20:37

DHs “drunk” depends on who he’s with. If he’s drunk at home he goes all quiet, moody and argumentative. If he’s drunk elsewhere he’s extremely annoying and embarrassing - forces his company on people, does really annoying things like stands there and announces that “he’s sorry for his behaviour” to everyone. It’s so embarrassing. One time he randomly started questioning how long these youngsters had been fans of this particular band and started almost arguining with them that they were not true fans like him. I cringed myself inside out.

Mine behaves differently with certain people also. There are a group of friends that behave like the inbetweeners when they are together, its awful. I have made it quite clear I hate it and its very unattractive.

NorthernDancer · 17/01/2026 22:54

SexyFrenchDepression · 17/01/2026 21:02

Slurry, he can't handle his drink and always seems more drunk than everyone else. He also talks nonsense and goes on and on. I really dont like him much when he drinks too much.

Sounds like we have the same sort of DH.

SexyFrenchDepression · 17/01/2026 22:55

NorthernDancer · 17/01/2026 22:54

Sounds like we have the same sort of DH.

I am just glad he doesn't drink too often!

Knittedfairies2 · 17/01/2026 22:56

He sings hymns before falling asleep.

PedanticPrincess · 17/01/2026 22:57

Like an asshole.
Which is one of the reasons he has been sober now for more than a decade.

HeartyViper · 17/01/2026 23:00

DH is mostly a really sweet drunk. He becomes very soppy, tells me how much he loves me and the kids and gets very touchy feely.
Either that, or he gets the giggles and hiccups and takes himself to bed 🤣

AliasGrape · 17/01/2026 23:04

DH seems pissed after one drink, but then kind of stays at that level no matter how much more he drinks.

If it’s just us and I’m sober I find him really irritating but if we’re both having a drink or we’re in company then it’s fine and he’s actually quite fun. Just a bit louder and repeats himself a bit, tries to suggest karaoke to anyone who will listen. I’ve seen him get a bit arsed and argumentative with it but he’d have to drink A LOT to get to that stage and that is really unusual, he’s usually asleep long before that point.

BauhausOfEliott · 18/01/2026 00:54

Depends if it’s just us or we’re in a group. When it’s just me and him, I can tell he’s getting tipsy because he starts to get slightly daft and slurs his words. But when we’re in a group, he becomes chattier and more outgoing when he’s had a couple of drinks. It’s actually a good thing, because that’s when other people get to see him at his best.

Basically, he’s always ‘himself’ around me, but he only becomes ‘himself’ around other people when he’s had a drink or two.

He doesn’t become argumentative or loud or anything.

MilkMonster654 · 18/01/2026 00:58

He gets chatty and romantic 😂Asked me to marry him when we were dating for 6 months (I ignored it 😅). He's nornally quiet and practical so it's quite nice, i have to say. I get the best cuddles when he's a tiny bit tipsy.

Drunk drunk he's annoying and passes out but he has only done that twice in a decade.

FromTheBlock · 18/01/2026 01:01

Exactly the same as when he’s not been drinking. He’s Irish and seems to be able to put an almost unlimited amount of booze away before it has any effect. In the many years we’ve been together I’ve only really seen him properly pissed maybe twice. You know when he is because he starts Irish dancing (he can’t do Irish dancing 🤣).

Netcurtainnelly · 18/01/2026 01:09

He dosent drink.

Ahhhblissful · 18/01/2026 01:33

My ex was a cuxt when he drank he was a cuxt without it just worse when he drank it.

CookingFatCat · 18/01/2026 01:38

He’s a dickhead and is verbally abusive.

OneHundredDays · 18/01/2026 02:39

Chatty, funny, silly, sweet, dances with the cat!

NNforthispost · 18/01/2026 03:10

mine is obnoxious. Really poisonous. Now I don’t converse if it’s clear he’s had one too many as he just comes out with really toxic shit. It’s easier to just pretend he’s not there and keep it basic ‘hello’ and ‘gnight’ when he slopes off to bed.

He’s out for the day tomorrow and will likely overconsume beer and then start on whisky. Joy of joys.

I hate it when he drinks.

If he’s with other people he’s chatty and smiling - though if you get close enough to hear him it’s usually all about him. And if someone starts a convo about, say, a holiday they’ve just been on he interrupts and talks about non related events where he is the main character. I see people smirk or roll their eyes and I find it a bit embarrassing.

He’s nice when sober, but I agree with a pp - alcohol doesn’t mix well with some folk and they should steer clear of it.

AlwaysTheRenegade · 18/01/2026 03:33

A bit tipsy and he's fine, just a bit more chatty like others have said.
When he's had too much he repeats stories of his youth, he's 50 and we've been together 20 years, so it's the same ones every bloody time 🤣 and interrupts a lot.
Unless I've had a drink aswell I go to bed to be honest, if I can see it going that way. My parents have always been awful drunks, and still still are, so drunk people always put me on edge. I think that's a 'me' problem though because he never does any harm, just interrupts a lot and brags a bit.

tartyflette · 18/01/2026 03:37

Loud. Can be obstreperous. If there's a nit to pick he will find it. A bit tedious, really.
Luckily it's extremely rare.