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To withdraw my application for this job?

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thepuzzlewontpiece · 17/01/2026 20:01

I left the career I studied for for five years to join the NHS, in a non clinical role that’s band 2.

there’s a band 5 job that I may well be qualified for, but I’m not 100% sure that I am. I applied a few days ago and since then I feel sick.

there’s a band 3 role coming up in our department that I want to go for, but the difference in pay between 3 and 5 is obviously huge and it makes me feel like I should be going for the 5. I really don’t know what to do and every part of me is screaming to withdraw

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Mysticmaiden · 17/01/2026 20:03

Why not go for both and go to both interviews then decide which you prefer if you are offered them both. I work as a team manager in the nhs.

EBITDAisMyHappyPlace · 17/01/2026 20:03

Do not withdraw, keep your hat in the ring go for both and see what happens!

TheDandyLion · 17/01/2026 20:03

Don't withdraw, you're having some self doubt. Apply for the other one as well.

cleo333 · 17/01/2026 20:04

Go to the interview and ask questions about the view with the view you are interviewing them and if you get it then you choose if you want it , if you don’t get it it’s no loss and keep looking about

lowboneslife · 17/01/2026 20:05

Keep the application in.

If they think you meet the criteria they will interview you.

You might get the job. If you don’t you will have experience of the interview and more knowledge of what they are looking for in a job like that. You can then work to gain that. Write down the questions they ask after the interview. That will help you if you apply in the future.

You have nothing to lose by keeping the application in.

Your life will be poorer for running away from things that make you nervous.

Strongle · 17/01/2026 20:06

Go for both and see what happens!!

Warpspeed · 17/01/2026 20:06

Don’t withdraw. Why don’t you think you can do it?

what type of role is it?

I advertise Band 5 roles for my team and if you fit the criteria you should be shortlisted

thepuzzlewontpiece · 17/01/2026 20:09

So they want someone with management experience (I don’t have that), and experience with accounting (I don’t). I’m also just not sure I actually want to do it? When I applied I definitely thought I did but I am having doubts now. It’s a world I left behind for a reason

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ExtraOnions · 17/01/2026 20:20

If you aren’t qualified they won’t offer you an interview.

If they read your application and think you are qualified, they will offer an interview.

Just see what happens at Shortlisting

Catza · 17/01/2026 21:52

thepuzzlewontpiece · 17/01/2026 20:09

So they want someone with management experience (I don’t have that), and experience with accounting (I don’t). I’m also just not sure I actually want to do it? When I applied I definitely thought I did but I am having doubts now. It’s a world I left behind for a reason

Well, you don't have to accept it if and when it is offered to you. You don't have to accept an interview either. It seems quite an overreaction to feel sick just because you applied for a job you may or may not be offered or want to do. What are you worried about? What do you think is the worst that would happen.
And yes, of course, you should be applying to other roles alongside it. I've had five different applications in various services going at the same time. Went to interviews and picked the employer which seemed like a good fit.

MayaPinion · 17/01/2026 21:55

If you were a man you wouldn’t be experiencing this angst. If you have over 60% of the qualities you should keep the application in - a man definitely would.

rookiemere · 17/01/2026 22:03

Honestly if you’re lacking key criteria, you’re unlikely to get an interview, keep your application in and see what happens, you can withdraw at any stage of the process you know. Go for the Band 3 and really focus on that. Either role will be an increase in salary so try not to fixate on what you should be earning.

LookingThroughGlass · 17/01/2026 22:16

Let it play out. It only becomes a choice if you are offered one of the roles - you might be worrying for nothing. The interview for the more senior role, if you're progressed, might help make your mind up. If you get an interview for it, be as honest as possible about your capabilities then if you are offered the role you can be confident it's within your ability.

AirborneElephant · 17/01/2026 22:17

thepuzzlewontpiece · 17/01/2026 20:09

So they want someone with management experience (I don’t have that), and experience with accounting (I don’t). I’m also just not sure I actually want to do it? When I applied I definitely thought I did but I am having doubts now. It’s a world I left behind for a reason

You applied for a band 5 management accounting job when you have no accounting or management experience? I thought band 5 was a “newly qualified professional” band?

But anyway don’t withdraw, just apply for the other role as well. Take it as interview practice if you get that far.

thepuzzlewontpiece · 17/01/2026 22:28

AirborneElephant · 17/01/2026 22:17

You applied for a band 5 management accounting job when you have no accounting or management experience? I thought band 5 was a “newly qualified professional” band?

But anyway don’t withdraw, just apply for the other role as well. Take it as interview practice if you get that far.

I don’t think so? Every band 5 in my trust is management, as is band 4 (non clinical at least). I match a lot of the other thins though

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AirborneElephant · 17/01/2026 22:57

thepuzzlewontpiece · 17/01/2026 22:28

I don’t think so? Every band 5 in my trust is management, as is band 4 (non clinical at least). I match a lot of the other thins though

You’ll know better, you’ve seen the advert. If you match at least 50% of the requirements you should apply. Women routinely rule themselves out of jobs that similarly-qualified men go for, so well done you for having a punt.

As I said before don’t withdraw yet. If you get an interview it will be great practice. If you get offered the role you can have a more in-depth conversation about what it entails and make a decision then. Good luck in both roles.

HoskinsChoice · 17/01/2026 23:46

thepuzzlewontpiece · 17/01/2026 20:09

So they want someone with management experience (I don’t have that), and experience with accounting (I don’t). I’m also just not sure I actually want to do it? When I applied I definitely thought I did but I am having doubts now. It’s a world I left behind for a reason

Withdrawing because you dont think you're good enough is crackers. You've applied now, it's up to them to decide.

However, if you've changed your mind about wanting the job then yes you should absolutely withdraw and apologise. Going through interviews is waste of everyone's time if you're not going to accept it.

Mysticmaiden · 18/01/2026 09:24

thepuzzlewontpiece · 17/01/2026 22:28

I don’t think so? Every band 5 in my trust is management, as is band 4 (non clinical at least). I match a lot of the other thins though

Management is usually band 7 and above. At band 5 I was a newly qualified registered Biomedical Scientist, band 6 as a specialist and band 7 to be a team manager. Maybe administrative roles are differently banded. Anyway don't worry about it, you won't be short listed if you don't fulfil the criteria. I regularly shortlist and interview staff as part of my role.
Distract yourself and do something that uses your focus as you don't need to feel sick over applying.

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