Introducing your friends to other friends?

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Do you see your friends separately?

Do you introduce your friends to other friends of yours?
Does it cause any problems?

I introduced three separate friends from different spheres of my life, once (work-related; a neighbourhood watch group; and a charity). So there were four of us round that wine bar table.

I thought it would be a delightful gathering of like-minded women all enjoying a lovely cocktail (on me), chatting about mutual interests.

Mike Leigh could well have written the ensuing passive-aggressive bloodbath.

Do you introduce your friends to other friends of yours?

Yes. I also liked being introduced to my friend’s friends. I love meeting new people.

Never had any problems, but I think that’s because I’m friends with great people. We don’t mingle with anyone who causes drama.

Yes, I’ve never had any problems. Some friends probably have more in common with each other due to how I’ve met them (work, etc.), but they’re all pretty nice and friendly and can get along with people despite not having common interests - probably why I decided to befriends with them!

Several times I've done this I thought it went well; but they both complained to me afterwards that the other friend didn't seem to like them. Or they all fucked off together and I was Wendied.

Yes - several times. Same with my friends - sometimes we all become good friends other times acquaintances. No dramas.

Only on occasions like birthdays, and even then I make sure there are people who I know will get on with others.

Totally depends on whether I think they will gel. Just because you are the common denominator doesn’t mean they will automatically mesh. I don’t introduce my sister to ANYONE anymore as she’s made three of my friends cry in the past!

@TheAutumnCrow excellent post! I can definitely think of people that I would NEVER introduce to once another!

I’m friends with great people too. But some prefer board game cafés and hot chocolate, some prefer a karaoke knees up at the local pub and some prefer a night at the theatre and bubbles. They’re all brilliant, but they don’t all like to do the same stuff socially and there isn’t a natural habitat that would suit them all.

I'm lucky to have a wide group of wonderfully friends. I've introduced them to each other over the that's and some
Now have really good 'direct' relationships in ther own right.

I find that very wonderful and it means that occasions when we all get together (like big birthdays) are even more fabulous.

One of the key characteristics of all of my friends is that each of them is the kind of woman who loves other women and are pretty much all intelligent, raging feminists. A match made in heaven

I don’t intentionally keep my friends separate from each other but they very rarely meet. All my friends are so different personality wise and I actually enjoy seeing them individually.

I find it’s better to keep friends separate.

One of my closest friends is the childhood best friend of another close friend. When she moved away from our town she made sure we knew each other. It’s an amazing gift to give a friend if you can.

No male friends then?

No, I don’t think they would found a common ground.

Maybe out of politeness, but maybe not for enjoyment. I have friends who I have introduced who have got on famously, I have friends who I have introduced who just haven’t clicked. No one was rude or awful. No drama. Just not a good fit. In the same way that you can meet your partner’s ex and be the complete opposite to them. But you both dated that person and think they are brilliant.

Well there’s always the chance of getting Wendied

It’s something I don’t go out of my way to do any longer. Sometimes friends I thought would get along really didn’t and other times they become friends too. But it is so hard to predict I definitely compartmentalise and see friends one on one!