well...is he?

[IsHeaGit]

Have namechanged not because I am scared of reactions but because my DH knows my handle!

Basically, I managed to stupidly walk fast into a too-low metal scaffolding pole yesterday, bang my head hard and got concussion.

The GP told me to rest and to have someone with me. My DH came home very grudgingly from work and tried to work and leave me with my DD (1.7). After much upset he stopped working and looked after her, since I could barely think straight.

Today I feel better but still like I have had drugs/too much to drink and can't think clearly and am rather slow. The GP had said it was OK for him to go to work this morning IF i was completely OK.

He has said "tough, I am going" and will be leaving me alone with DD, who is very lively and always climbing etc. He says that he has stuff to finish as we are going on holiday tomorrow. He is even threatening to work late. There is noone who can help at such short notice.

Anyway AIBU to be upset with him, I really do not know...

Yanbu at all imo. Is there no-one at all that can come over and be with you and dd?

Yes - you're totally right. i bet if it had happened to him he would have made you suffer...god, such a typical male reaction.
I personally think you should go and see a doc again as it's a bit worrying that you still feel a bit odd - are you flying to go on hols? If so def. get an appointment.
Hope you feel better - but give him a kick up the arse from me.

I suppose he is, a bit. But then, my DH was in a job where he could NEVER take time off, no matter how ill I or the children were, so I just got used to coping, and hoped I would be able to call on friends or neighbours if things were really desperate.

I guess it depends on whether he can take time off at short notice, and how understanding his colleagues/employers are.

I am so sorry you are suffering, and I hope you feel better soon.

I would strongly advise you to take photos of the scaffolding pole and report it to HSE, as the next person to walk into it might be even more badly hurt.

He said if it happened to him he would "just get on with it" as he is stronger than me.

Git would be putting it a little too mildly, I think. He's being a twat and letting both you and your daughter down badly.

I also think you need to see the doctor again as you are still not right this morning.

His employers would be understanding in this situation I'm sure, he is just over-conscientious (wow I must be a bit better to be able to type that! )

How are you feeling now?
He says he would "just get on with it" but really it would probably be "arghhhh, I've got a major head injury - we must go to the hospital....but first can I have a cup of tea and eggy soldiers..." (or something like that)

Could he not just look after DD for 10 mins for you to get the OK from doc?

Thanks all. I am OK but not quite with it. I agree the holiday will be good for us and we can't fight the whole time, esp with DD there in car. Doc said I would be better with time, and gave me things to look out for which would indicate I needed to be seen, none of which have happened - phew!