To be raging at DH right now

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Petty one but I spent £30 on clothes over the weekend, none of them fit, I told him - he watched me try them on at home. I said oh I need to take these back, put them in the bag, put the receipt in the bag, stuck the bag in the spare room.

He had a day off today, I came home to find all the new clothes hung up. He said he had no recollection of that conversation and threw away the bag and receipt today whilst tidying up.

Ffs. Am I unreasonable to be really angry right now? I swear whatever I say goes in one ear and out the other

Id make him go to the bin and retrieve them.

That’s so odd of him. How weird!

I voted yabu simply because lack of sleep with my youngest has destroyed my memory and also the idea of a partner actually tidying up without being asked sways it in his favour...

If they still have tags on, you might be able to take them back anyway.

I think you are unreasonable to be raging when his intentions were good. It would be reasonable to be annoyed but raging seems ott.

This^

Or he gives you the cash.

you may still be able to return them if you explain what happened

The bag will be retrievable. Tell him to fish it out of the bin.

I think yabu simply because ultimately the responsibility lies with you for managing the return of your purchase, but I agree it's weird for him not to recall the chat and to unpack the bag. I wouldn't be raging about it though.

I would be raging if this is part of a pattern of him not listening to you. I find that many men simply do not listen to women. It’s infuriating.

She wasn’t expecting the husband to return to purchase?

Thanks, we’ve checked the bins but he took those out to the big bins, which were collected!

It is definitely part of a bigger pattern of not listening - and when he does listen, he does half of the job. It’s unbelievably frustrating.

However, I have just unloaded all of my frustration and he said he’s going to make a concerted effort to listen more, so let’s see 🙃

Raging? He hung up some clothes...

If you have the bank statement then you'll probably be able to return still, or just ask him to go in the bin.

Can you imagine if you did the same thing and your husband was raging at you??

I know he's said he'll make a concerted effort to listen more, and thats good, but god isnt it depressing that you have to ask him to... listen when you talk.

What is he prepared to do to remedy the situation? Is he just shrugging his shoulders? If my DH took clothes out a bag and put them away I’d grr er lucid. I don’t touch his purchases, he doesn’t touch mine.

I have one like yours. It's infuriating. No suggestions, sorry, but I feel your pain.

Raging is a it much.

Are you for real? She WAS managing the return and her DH ignored her intentions and made the return process harder for her without a receipt. Bit of a stretch to pin the blame for the situation on the OP 😂

You should at least be able to get a credit note if you show the shop your transaction on your banking app.

That is just so odd - does he normally hang up your clothes? People tend to just not think these days 🤣

If they're BNWT you can probably exchange them for the right size. Or sell them on Vinted.

So did he apologise and accept fault or just say he will try to listen more? This is something my gaslighting abusive ex would have done then he would be offended I didn’t appreciate his effort to help with the house. But sounds like your husband has accepted he was wrong? Although try to listen in future is easily empty words.