AIBU to say my sons girlfriend can stay over…

[GinnyW]

DH and I are supposed to be away for weekend. I told DS that his 18 yo DGF could stay over. DS is very nearly 18. DH has had a momentous hissy fit as I didn’t ask his permission. To the point where we might not go away for weekend. I thought that it was really sweet that DS asked me as he could have invited her over anyway. I am not sure what I did that was so wrong.

I wouldn't expect my DH to discuss this decision with me. They're both of legal age, you and DH won't be in the house, as you say DS could've gone ahead and done it anyway. I think your DH is overreacting, it's not going to have any impact on him.

I’m baffled at this .. so she already stays over anyway, but your DH is annoyed because you’ve said she can stay over when you’re not there because he thinks they might have sex? What does he think they do anyway, play chess?

I am so confused. Does he not think they are "intimate" already?

He's being ridiculous all round.

Well yes, we have all been there!

This was exactly my reasoning, thank you

I don’t know, I prefer to not think about it to be honest. They are not kids anymore.

What would DH have said if you had discussed it with him first?

Plan ahead, it goes by so quickly!

No, definitely no. Which I think is ridiculous.

But if she stays over when you’re at home what’s the difference? Or does GF stay in the spare room or something?

If it was the first time of allowing a partner to stay over I might have discussed it first (however DS was 16 not almost 18 so also a little bit different), however given she stays over already it wouldn’t have crossed my mind to ask.

DS has been his partner since 16 and is now 19. I’d call that a partner to the OP that said they are not partners at 17/18.

I’m absolutely with you.
Your ds could have kept schtum and you’d never know.
or he could have had 10 mates round, drinking alcohol and gaming, vomiting in your kitchen sink, disturbing the neighbours.
Give him the chance to prove they can be trusted.

Given the housing crisis how long is DS expected to wait before having sex?

Well yes, mine are grown up, and I don't want to think about it either, they're my babies! However, I obviously know that they do things...