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Inappropriate behaviour towards member of staff

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Myunhappyheart · 15/01/2026 14:29

I have a client who has been making a staff member feel very uncomfortable.

she goes to his house, stays outside on the door step to pick something up. Then returns that thing a few hours later.

she says he opens the door and looks at her legs. Then as she walks off he watches her walk off. Today she said she just wanted to pull her coat down to cover herself up. And she cried when she returned.

this week he made a comment about the downward dog yoga position which she felt was strange.

I did that part of her job for her today and the interaction was absolutely normal. Not saying this because I disbelieve her but I feel it strengthens what she is saying actually. She is considerably younger than I am. If he acted like that taught me, I would undoubtably call him out on it there and then. So I feel he’s taking advantage of her lack of confidence and vulnerability almost.

obviously I am going to drop this client, and upon speaking to other people in my industry I have found out he has actually used someone else before which he never told me and he had been very rude to her when she let them go due to a payment issue.

So naturally, I am not feeling confident about what to say to this guy. I can make up another excuse why I can no longer work with him but part of me feels like he should know how he made my employee feel.

She is worried there will be comeuppance on my business if he is essentially accused of being a pervert, but that is something I am absolutely not concerned about whatsoever. And I don’t think it will happen and if it does, I’ll be fully supported by a whole array of people. And I’ll inform his wife.

So my question is and I’m posting here for traffic, how would you deal with this?

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DuplicateUserName · 15/01/2026 14:35

I'd ask him to explain specifically what he meant with the yoga pose comment.

But other than that, I think I'd come across as a bit odd if I accused him of staring at legs.

However, you said you're not bothered so to answer your question, I guess I'd just crack on and drop him in the same way you're about to.

Myunhappyheart · 16/01/2026 09:08

Please may I get more opinions on this before I action it today. People I’ve spoken to in real life who I respect have said I should keep the client on but maybe go and deal with the client myself rather than letting them go completely.

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PrizedPickledPopcorn · 16/01/2026 09:10

I’d deal with the client yourself. He may well stop using the service, if he doesn’t get what he wants. Less opportunity for him to cause you trouble.

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 16/01/2026 09:11

In fact do that if only to buy yourself time to decide what to do. There’s no need to ‘action this today’ from what you have said.

rwalker · 16/01/2026 09:12

contact them to say you will be dealing with him from now on and as you say you are happy to call him out

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